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Monkey Mind: A Memoir of Anxiety
Anxiety once paralyzed Daniel Smith over a roast beef sandwich, convincing him that a choice between ketchup and barbeque sauce was as dire as that between life and death. It has caused him to chew his cuticles until they bled, wear sweat pads in his armpits, and confess his sexual problems to his psychotherapist mother. It has dogged his days, threatened his sanity, and r...more
Hardcover, 212 pages
Published
July 3rd 2012
by Simon & Schuster
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Monkey Mind: A Memoir of Anxiety
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Daniel Smith’s Monkey Mind is the stunning articulation of what it is like to live with anxiety. As he travels through anxiety’s demonic layers, Smith…more
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EDIT 29 May:
Following the reaction to my naming of Smith's experience as rape (see comments), I re-read the book, with an open mind, looking for evidence of this consensual but regretted activity some people seem to see. I still see only rape.
It's clearer than ever to me that Smith has been groomed by a predatory adult, does not want to have sex, and doesn't know how to get out of it.
To avoid unwanted sex is not an easy thing. There's a great column by Katie Halper in which she details her str...more
Following the reaction to my naming of Smith's experience as rape (see comments), I re-read the book, with an open mind, looking for evidence of this consensual but regretted activity some people seem to see. I still see only rape.
It's clearer than ever to me that Smith has been groomed by a predatory adult, does not want to have sex, and doesn't know how to get out of it.
To avoid unwanted sex is not an easy thing. There's a great column by Katie Halper in which she details her str...more
I received a copy of this book for free through Goodreads First Reads. I tend to read the first chapter, or several if they are short, of books I receive in order to get a better feel for them, before I have time to read them entirely through and write a proper review. I enjoyed what I read of this one and look forward to finishing it.
Yeah, you can say it piqued my interest. I told (hubby) he didn't have to read it, as he's lived with it for over 20 years. If you have any kind of ANXIETY, the kind that makes you feel on the outside of normal, you might enjoy this book. That is, if you feel it is psychologically healthy for you to do so. You may or may not be as bad, the same as, or worse than the examples given by the Jewish boy-teen-man, but the anxiety is presented in such a way that it's almost a character. It's lightheart...more
I'm going to do something that I've never done before in a book review. I'm going to recommend that you NOT read this book. It's not because Monkey Mind isn't an effective expose on what an individual suffering from chronic anxiety lives with; it is. It's at times darkly funny, as Smith has few problems poking fun at his own complexes. Other times it's very informative; you can tell he has done his research, and hasn't relied solely on personal experience. All in all, Monkey Mind is engaging, a...more
I've been putting off writing this review because it's hard to conceive of doing it justice in a couple paragraphs.
Having struggled with Generalized Anxiety Disorder since I was a little kid, I've read plenty of books about anxiety. Mostly nonfiction from the medical/psych fields, of the "about anxiety" and/or "how to manage anxiety" camp(s). Daniel Smith's book is nothing like that, in that it doesn't attempt to teach or enlighten. Rather, it's his story--his account of what life looks like whi...more
Having struggled with Generalized Anxiety Disorder since I was a little kid, I've read plenty of books about anxiety. Mostly nonfiction from the medical/psych fields, of the "about anxiety" and/or "how to manage anxiety" camp(s). Daniel Smith's book is nothing like that, in that it doesn't attempt to teach or enlighten. Rather, it's his story--his account of what life looks like whi...more
Read pretty fast cuz it wasn't all that enlightening. However, as someone who knows anxiety, I did identify with two different parts: College and a letter the author wrote to himself. Regarding college, the author questions how a bunch of people that don't know each other can live in that close proximity to each other and try to make everyone like them without it being anxiety inducing. I find that a good questions. Here is an excerpt from the letter: "You have put yourself in a position in whic...more
Daniel Smith's Monkey Mind is subtitled "A Memoir of Anxiety", and it sounds so promising: a smart, intimate, honest account of one person's battle with an acute, crippling mental illness, combined with a broader perspective of treatments, societal reactions/misunderstandings, etc., like what Andrew Solomon did with depression in his great Noonday Demon, one of my all-time favorites, or Elyn Saks with schizophrenia with her also pretty great The Center Cannot Hold. AND Smith is supposedly "laugh...more
I got an advance copy of this book through Goodreads/Firstreads for review.
I was underwhelmed by this book. It started off with potential but didn't really feel like it went anywhere. Daniel Smith has a voice which really comes through, and some of the anecdotes in this memoir are funny and self-deprecating. There are moments which remind me of David Sedaris or Augusten Burroughs, but the highlights are fewer than I'd have liked them to be.
Mostly, this memoir meanders about a topic and eventuall...more
I was underwhelmed by this book. It started off with potential but didn't really feel like it went anywhere. Daniel Smith has a voice which really comes through, and some of the anecdotes in this memoir are funny and self-deprecating. There are moments which remind me of David Sedaris or Augusten Burroughs, but the highlights are fewer than I'd have liked them to be.
Mostly, this memoir meanders about a topic and eventuall...more
Jul 28, 2012
Angela
rated it
4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Anyone who has anxiety, knows someone with anxiety or has an interest in the topic
Daniel Smith made four general observations about anxiety that shows how intimate he is with this particular affliction:
1. Anxiety starts from fear. Once anxious, the brain looks for more things to be fearful of, which begets the cycle. Essentially, anxiety is addictive.
2. There is no cure for anxiety. Only treatment and treatment only works if one is committed to the long process.
3. Anxiety sufferers are not "crazy." Crazy implies a break from reality. Anxiety may be a result of being in "to...more
1. Anxiety starts from fear. Once anxious, the brain looks for more things to be fearful of, which begets the cycle. Essentially, anxiety is addictive.
2. There is no cure for anxiety. Only treatment and treatment only works if one is committed to the long process.
3. Anxiety sufferers are not "crazy." Crazy implies a break from reality. Anxiety may be a result of being in "to...more
To soothe an anxious mind is like trying to stop a tsunami...with an umbrella. Being one of the millions who suffer from anxiety, I have tried everything to "fix" myself. I have panic attacks about having panic attacks. I am in a constant state of "fight or flight" wherever I go and, at some points of my life, considered hospitalization. That is why I connected so well with Daniel Smith's "Monkey Mind: A Memoir of Anxiety."
Friends, family, and therapists always consoled me by saying "You're not...more
Friends, family, and therapists always consoled me by saying "You're not...more
It's psychotherapy-as-book-review time:
I picked up a copy of this book because I hoped it would give my anxiety some perspective. Some days I can't even bring myself to leave the house, and even on my good days, I feel skinless and raw. It's always been that way, and lately it's been getting worse.
The good news is, I found some perspective in this memoir. Daniel Smith's symptoms are sometimes eerily similar to my own. The bad news is that Smith is something of an extreme case, at one point appr...more
I picked up a copy of this book because I hoped it would give my anxiety some perspective. Some days I can't even bring myself to leave the house, and even on my good days, I feel skinless and raw. It's always been that way, and lately it's been getting worse.
The good news is, I found some perspective in this memoir. Daniel Smith's symptoms are sometimes eerily similar to my own. The bad news is that Smith is something of an extreme case, at one point appr...more
As much as I like Smith (I heard him on WTF w/ Marc Maron), this book just didn't pull me in. Smith doesn't really convey what it feels like to suffer from crippling anxiety. I kept thinking back to Marya Hornbacher's Madness: A Bipolar Life. Hornbacher drags us into her mind. When she's manic, we feel invincible. When she's down, we really don't see how things could get better. I left that memoir feeling dizzied, dazed, like I'd suffered with her.
Smith, by contrast, doesn't seem to take his su...more
Smith, by contrast, doesn't seem to take his su...more
What a relief to read a book about anxiety that isn't about how to cure yourself (not that I would turn down a cure, but ...) but how someone out there feels just like you do. I should clarify and say that not everyone who suffers from anxiety has all the same symptoms and feelings, but I think we all share something, even just the ability to understand where the odd behavior is coming from (or the hands that look like they were manicured with an immersion blender, to quote the author ... me too...more
On page 170/212 of this book and I can't go any further. I wanted so badly to enjoy this book, from the first time I saw it at the bookstore. For many years I have suffered from anxiety, although not quite as severe as Daniel. I heard this was a light and funny read, and thought that I would be able to relate to much of his descriptions about anxiety. There were a few descriptions of Daniel's that I did relate to, such as his description of anxiety attacks.
For the most part, i found this book v...more
For the most part, i found this book v...more
A.J. Jacobs cover-blurbs Daniel Smith's Monkey Mind. This is not necessarily a positive harbinger. Jacobs has spawned a genre of cutsey-but-not-horrible books in which the author does something wacky like buying a Korean deli or living according to strict Biblical tenets then keeps a diary of his travails and insecurities. Monkey Mind ventures into more serious territory but retains the basic formula. Smith outlines his history with anxiety while straddling the “not too serious” Jacobs approach....more
First of all, this book should have a trigger warning associated with it. I don't think the author is far enough along in the recovery process to write about it helpfully for other sufferers of anxiety. (Which is not to say that an author must "have it all together" before sharing his experience - I do not think that is the case.) But for the most part, I found this book to be too self-indulgent for me. I would have given it two stars if it weren't for two passages that soundly resonated with me...more
As an increasingly anxious person, I normally find reading about other people's anxieties soothing. It's sort of a reminder that what I feel is part of the human experience, and greater than my own petty troubles, like did I lock the front door when I came in from work. It's finding kinship in the experience of the other person. (And also maybe .5% reminding myself that maybe my own anxiety is not THAT bad.)
But this book was too much for me. It was more memoir than anxiety and I found it hard to...more
But this book was too much for me. It was more memoir than anxiety and I found it hard to...more
Smith goes many places in this memoir and I really liked his depiction of cerebral anxiety because it matches my own. His eventual control of it towards the end of the book through cognitive behavioral therapy really does work and I'm very happy to see he's surviving. However...
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As someone who doesn't suffer from anxiety, but who loves people who do, I found this book to be very enlightening. Sometimes, it's hard for me to understand this from others' points of view because it gets frustrating. Like when he explains the trip to Italy with Joanna--she didn't just want him to not hate it or to silently endure it, but she couldn't understand what was so awful about such a fun trip. When you're not in that head, it's hard to understand what the problem is. The author's desc...more
Jan 24, 2013
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I very much enjoyed this book, with the odd and ironic caveat that, for a memoir about anxiety, it is EXACTLY the passages ABOUT anxiety that drag this book down the most. When Daniel Smith isn't talking about how agonizing anxiety is, and specifically.every.single.permutation.about.how.agonizing.anxiety.is..., the book is fantastic.
Daniel Smith is an extraordinarily capable writer - the syntax and word choices he uses have great flow and weight to them. You're very conscious as you read this b...more
Daniel Smith is an extraordinarily capable writer - the syntax and word choices he uses have great flow and weight to them. You're very conscious as you read this b...more
I worry. Sometimes, a lot. It can occasionally keep me awake, make me feel tense, unsettled. When people talk about dealing with an anxiety disorder, I think, "I can relate."
I had no idea.
Well, that isn't fair. I do have some idea, but my anxiety is situational, generally short-term, and reasonably resolved. Daniel Smith lives with my kind of anxiousness (only worse) ALL THE TIME. It must be an absolutely exhausting way to go through life.
It was somewhat exhausting to read. Smith was constantly...more
I had no idea.
Well, that isn't fair. I do have some idea, but my anxiety is situational, generally short-term, and reasonably resolved. Daniel Smith lives with my kind of anxiousness (only worse) ALL THE TIME. It must be an absolutely exhausting way to go through life.
It was somewhat exhausting to read. Smith was constantly...more
Jul 24, 2012
Cynthia
rated it
3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for:
Any one that suffers from chronic anxiety and those that love them.
Shelves:
first-reads-winner
Monkey Mind takes a different approach to the issue of anxiety that most books on the topic might choose. The reader is presented with three of the authors significant battles with anxiety and takes the reader from the start (or the perceived start) of the problem through how he has dealt and deals with the anxiety in his life.
For those who suffer the affects of chronic anxiety the memoir gives reassurance that while the anxiety will always be something you have to deal with it doesn't have to...more
For those who suffer the affects of chronic anxiety the memoir gives reassurance that while the anxiety will always be something you have to deal with it doesn't have to...more
Jun 08, 2013
Arianna
rated it
3 of 5 stars
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Found this to be comforting in a lot of ways, because I too suffer from anxiety, although not to the degree that the author does. However, I felt that the whole book was leading up to the real story, which never actually happened. It was ultimately an adorable love story, though.
I found myself recognizing the narrator's voice immediately, although it took a bit of research to remember why: it was the same man who had read Pygmy by Palahniuk, which I audiobooked in December of 2009 (hence the ini...more
I found myself recognizing the narrator's voice immediately, although it took a bit of research to remember why: it was the same man who had read Pygmy by Palahniuk, which I audiobooked in December of 2009 (hence the ini...more
Monkey Mind is perhaps best described as a book written for someone on the outside of an anxiety disorder, looking in, rather than someone with an anxiety disorder, looking out. Smith, using his own biography as a focal point, describes what it's like to suffer from anxiety, considers the causes of anxiety - both scientific and otherwise - and charts the prosaic and life-changing effects anxiety can have (for example a) sweat, and b) resigning from your job).
It's a well-written, honest, thoughtf...more
It's a well-written, honest, thoughtf...more
Having suffered from anxiety for the last 20 years, I felt this was going to be the book where I could say that finally someone put a voice to those of us who suffer from it. While I can completely relate to the "monkey mind", I felt that some of his writings just fell short of really being able to write about how his anxiety is affecting him.
I understand where the moment his anxiety came about (during his first sexual experience), but most of us had anxiety come out of the blue and we can't eve...more
I understand where the moment his anxiety came about (during his first sexual experience), but most of us had anxiety come out of the blue and we can't eve...more
Daniel Smith clearly has a talent for looking a the humorous side of anxiety. I can't remember the last time a book on anxiety attacks made me laugh out loud till my stomach hurt. The book is exactly what it says it is, a memoir, so be forewarned, it is not about curing/coping with anxiety. He has some tips thrown in (like a hilarious list of occupations and careers that people with anxiety should avoid at all costs) but it is not like Priscilla Warner's book because while she had a concrete goa...more
Having greatly enjoyed his Muses, Madmen, and Prophets I was intrigued to read Smith's deeply personal memoir about living, suffering, and coping with anxiety. Monkey Mind is a multi-category book: psychological page-turner, science journalism, autobiography, and a tragi-comedy of heroic proportions. Smith has done the field of phenomenological psychology a great service by giving us a surprisingly intimate front-seat account of what-it-is-like to suffer from anxiety. The book impresses on you t...more
Daniel Smith's Monkey Mind recounts the development of his awareness of his anxiety and the subsequent effects this debilitation had on his social and professional life. Told with wry wit and humor, his memoir so vividly paints a caricature of the anxious it nearly instills anxiety into its reader. My own personal dealings with anxiety have attracted me to writers like Kierkegaard, Dostoyevsky, Camus, and Sartre, who deal with this subject at length in their writings. I thought it would be nice...more
I read the first 60 or 70 pages word for word. I wanted to stop reading after the intro but I'd heard good things about this book so I pressed on. However, after about the first 60 or 70 pages, I skimmed the rest of the book.
This is the author's memoir of life with anxiety. That said, the book loses its focus time and again as the author goes on tangents that are unrelated to the topic of the book.
In my opinion, the nervous disorder called anxiety is very complicated, subtle, chronic, baffling,...more
This is the author's memoir of life with anxiety. That said, the book loses its focus time and again as the author goes on tangents that are unrelated to the topic of the book.
In my opinion, the nervous disorder called anxiety is very complicated, subtle, chronic, baffling,...more
Dec 22, 2012
Holly
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I'm really looking forward to reading this book!
I personally struggled from undiagnosed General Anxiety Disorder coupled with Panic Disorder for more than 20 years. I was ashamed of my symptoms and designed my life around camouflaging the illness. If I had only known how common my troubles were and how accessible treatment was for my mysterious attacks. I think it's great that more and more people are talking about their anxiety.
I welcome anyone else who suffers from an anxiety disorder to join...more
I personally struggled from undiagnosed General Anxiety Disorder coupled with Panic Disorder for more than 20 years. I was ashamed of my symptoms and designed my life around camouflaging the illness. If I had only known how common my troubles were and how accessible treatment was for my mysterious attacks. I think it's great that more and more people are talking about their anxiety.
I welcome anyone else who suffers from an anxiety disorder to join...more
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“In this unforgettable, surprisingly hilarious memoir, journalist and professor Smith chronicles his head-clanging, flop-sweating battles with acute anxiety. . . . He’s clear-eyed and funny about his condition’s painful... ”
Daniel Smith is the author of "Muses, Madmen, and Prophets" and a contributor to numerous publications, including The Atlantic, The New York Times Magazine, and Slate.
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