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The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

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Breaking the silence, removing the shame

In this highly acclaimed recovery guide, renowned sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz shed new light on the compelling nature and destructive power of today’s instantly available pornography. Weaving together poignant real-life stories with innovative exercises, checklists, and expert advice, this groundbreaking res
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ebook, 304 pages
Published October 13th 2009 by HarperCollins e-books (first published April 22nd 2008)
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Stacey
This is the first book I received from the Harper Collins First Look program, and what a way to start. I have a dear friend who is a self-professed porn addict, struggling for many years to completely eliminate his porn use.

This book doesn't judge or preach. It's not a morality issue. They delve into the beginnings of the addiction, how our childhood exposure largely determines our relationship with porn later, and how it escalates.

The two biggest things I took away were:

1) This addiction has a
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Joseph
i'm still not convinced that "porn addiction" and other "behavioral" addictions exist. mainly, 'cause i have a hard time understanding that an addiction can exist without physiological withdrawal. however, i picked up the book, thinking that it'd be a good read . . . even though it was written by two LCSWs.
there were several good points in the book, one being that porn can cause strain within the relationship. it also makes finding a relationship a lot more difficult. mainly, it makes us lose t
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Anna
As a Christian, I know pretty clearly what the Bible says about sexual immorality. All sin, including porn, is meant to snare us and suffocate the life out of us. But I incessantly hear cultural voices playing down the dangers of porn, trying to normalize it by saying every man does it. This book was written by two psychologists who are not speaking from a Christian worldview. They have found from working extensively with clients over the years that porn is extremely harmful both to the persons ...more
John Kennedy
Some of the advice is simplistic, some insightful. The book, written by therapists who have treated dozens of addicts, does a good job of describing the shame that addicts feel. It also describes the reaction of spouses well. For example:
"Feelings of betrayal, disappointment, sexual inadequacy and rejection can last for many months, even years, well past when the angry outbursts and crying spells have ended. Women often suffer in internal psychological ways that can be difficult for the porn use
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Alison
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Wendy Maltz and her husband have been therapists in Eugene, OR, for approximately 30 years. Wendy Maltz is an LCSW who wrote The Sexual Healing Journey, which I bought about 10 years ago out of personal and clinical interets. I have recommended it to patients frequently. Though I just started The Porn Trap, it claims to be a non-moralistic approach to dealing with relationship issues related to pornorgraphy. The couple state that they wrote the book after seeing increasing marital/relationship p ...more
Scott Harris
Writing about pornography will strike many as antiquated ideology or even relgious conservativism, but as millions of couples know, it can also be incredibly straining on real relationships. This book is written from a clinical perspective and offers an assessment on the attraction to porn, the impact of individuals and relationships and offers a strategy for addressing the problem at the personal level. It does not provide a sociological assessment of the causes and problems associated with por ...more
Jesse Field
Doesn't mention anything about gay guys, and dwells mainly on how when men masturbate to porn, it makes their female sexual partners feel bad. Seems fixated on old-fashioned porn videos, and hardly mentions amateur porn produced with computers and cell phones. Says nothing about the effects of making your own masturbation videos. Overall, the book takes a really negative attitude towards porn, which seems laughably Puritan to me. There must be other psychologists who can conceive of a mindful us ...more
Erin
As part of my job as an editor, I read a heart-breaking personal statement from a woman that was struggling with a pornography addiction. For a variety of reasons, I have become more and more aware of how pervasive porn addictions are among women and among several of my friends. I was looking for a book that would give me a better understanding of this addiction and this book came highly recommended.

I am also really interested in addictive behavior and techniques that people use to overcome such
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richwire
An in-depth treatment of the topic. I found the first half of the book especially interesting - lots of real life examples of how pornography ruined the lives of many. A large part of the 2nd half of the book is geared towards couples in recovery. Could be very useful, but not really relevant unless you're in a relationship. Also included is an exhaustive glossary of resources - books, videos, organizations, etc. This treasure trove of information will be worth the price of the book to some.
Judy
Another way to fall into the rabbit hole of addiction... Very informative. It is a damaging addiction that has the nasty ideology of hate towards women and children. The book was aimed for mainstream middle class straight crowd and mentions in passing gay men. No discussion on lesbian produced and consumed porn. The only mention is lesbians as a 'product'. The authors don't adress what happens when the players are women on women. Still, a good book to understand the pyschology.
Ellen
I found the partners in pain chapter helped me to understand why I felt the way I did. Some useful tools to help me get back to where I was prior to discovering that my boyfriend (now husband) was viewing porn. If only he read more & I could get him to read it. It offers very useful infirmation on the effects it has on the user and their life as well as how & why their partners feel how they do once their use of porn has been discovered.
Jessica
I started reading this for research, but it has really made me stop and think about the effect of pornography on society. I'd always thought it to be relatively benign. But with the advent and availability of Internet porn, I've started to rethink what this may mean for the sexuality of generations going forward.
Robin
A CBT focused book on dealing with addiction to porn - it is one of the rare books out there that doesn't come from a strictly religious view point. Still found it to have quaint ideas on women and porn (The horror. The horror) and mainly comes at it from a male religious heterosexual problem.
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Cynmo
couldn't get thru it, just the jacket saying they wanted us to have porn-free sex lives, and had to set it aside.
Eric
There are some sick mo-fos out there. This book was focused on those in relationships. Not much help for the lonely.
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