He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillopublished
December 26th 2006
(first published 2004)
by Simon Spotlight Entertainment
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Hardcover, 208 pages
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141694740X
(isbn13: 9781416947400)
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For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
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Read in August, 2008
My god - did I just read a self-help book about dating? I did! Some part of me feels very dirty inside.
But aside from that, as a person who loathes "self help" drivel in pretty much all commercialized forms - I have to admit that this is actually a smart book. Written from the straight forward view-point of a man, it clearly points out the things that all women already know but many ignore due to hope.
It's blunt. It's honest. And it's actually funny. I laughed out loud numerou...more
But aside from that, as a person who loathes "self help" drivel in pretty much all commercialized forms - I have to admit that this is actually a smart book. Written from the straight forward view-point of a man, it clearly points out the things that all women already know but many ignore due to hope.
It's blunt. It's honest. And it's actually funny. I laughed out loud numerou...more
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Read in September, 2006
Buku ini, kabarnya bestseller, sempet direview Oprah juga loh... makanya ga heran betapa susahnya nyari buku ini, dats why sekali ketemu [dan udah gajian:] gw langsung "nyamber" buku ini....
Setelah dibaca.....hmmmmm a bit dissapointed sih.. ga sesuai dengan yg gw bayangkan, karena bukunya itu berbentuk kata2 bijak, quote2....jadi berkesan "desperate"....
somehow, gw baca juga buku ini smp abis, yah...mau gmn lagi, udah kebeli jg, lagian textnya dikit, fontnya jg gede2........more
Setelah dibaca.....hmmmmm a bit dissapointed sih.. ga sesuai dengan yg gw bayangkan, karena bukunya itu berbentuk kata2 bijak, quote2....jadi berkesan "desperate"....
somehow, gw baca juga buku ini smp abis, yah...mau gmn lagi, udah kebeli jg, lagian textnya dikit, fontnya jg gede2........more
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Those of you that are married aren't you so grateful. You can laugh at me and say I am so glad I am not there anymore. I even laugh at myself, it is the only way to get through sometimes.
I sort of read the book,I skipped a lot for example the chapters "He is just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he is drunk", and "He is just not that into you if he is not having sex with you", etc. I really didn't like most of the book, much of it didn't apply. Greg B...more
I sort of read the book,I skipped a lot for example the chapters "He is just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he is drunk", and "He is just not that into you if he is not having sex with you", etc. I really didn't like most of the book, much of it didn't apply. Greg B...more
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Read in February, 2008
recommended to Leonie by:
my friend Sarahrecommends it for: women who need support and reason when they feel weak against men who mistreat them.
It takes a real friend who can gently say to you "maybe he's just not that into you". And I have one of those friends. And I want to be that friend for another friend who is indulging in that destructive behaviour of messing around with a married man. But I didn't know how, not until I reached the FAQ at the back of this book and now, maybe I do.
But anyway. This book helped me a lot. It helped me look back at the past seven years since I first got a bf, and examine how the relation...more
But anyway. This book helped me a lot. It helped me look back at the past seven years since I first got a bf, and examine how the relation...more
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He’s Just Not Into You gives advice to the lovelorn. If your guy did not call after the first date, he’s just not that into you. If you agree to meet in a strange city and he does not show up, he’s just not that into you. You get the idea. This is a very repetitious book.
I could not help contrasting this cold unfeeling attitude toward love with Elvis Presley’s advice to the lovelorn, as gleaned from his lyrics.
When Elvis falls, he falls madly in love. The feeling drives him wild....more
I could not help contrasting this cold unfeeling attitude toward love with Elvis Presley’s advice to the lovelorn, as gleaned from his lyrics.
When Elvis falls, he falls madly in love. The feeling drives him wild....more
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Read in November, 2004
recommended to Danielle by:
Oprahrecommends it for: any single girl, or any girl in a crappy relationship
Every single girl should read this book, and live by it! Its a book that states the obvious to us girls, but we are too wrapped up to actually see the situation for what it is......it is, being that 'hes just not that into you', Ive bought this book for a few of my single girlfriends, or gf's in crappy relationships.
It just makes sense. If he doesnt call you, he's just not that into you, period. seems to make complete sense. but how many of us sit around waiting for him to call?? lol
If he'...more
It just makes sense. If he doesnt call you, he's just not that into you, period. seems to make complete sense. but how many of us sit around waiting for him to call?? lol
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Read in April, 2005
recommends it for:
every young woman...ever
If loving this book is shallow, then I don't want to be deep.
It's a really fucking simple concept, and it's entirely encompassed in the title. In fact, I love how the title totally sounds like it's uber harsh. In reality, telling you that "he's not really that into you" is about the nicest thing someone can do to you!
This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination (take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover), but the concept is so important to young women ...more
It's a really fucking simple concept, and it's entirely encompassed in the title. In fact, I love how the title totally sounds like it's uber harsh. In reality, telling you that "he's not really that into you" is about the nicest thing someone can do to you!
This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination (take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover), but the concept is so important to young women ...more
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Read in June, 2006
Eh, I wanted to hate this book. I dislike anything that the media (het hem, OPRAH) has picked up and run with and rammed down everybody's throats. I also hated the idea that, from what I heard, the author wants girls to be submissive, never make the first move, wait until the guy expresses interest, arrgh! Hated the idea, hate hate hate.
After I read it...I STILL hate it, but only because, in certain section, the author's right. We all make excuses for why a guy we like doesn't sweep us off o...more
After I read it...I STILL hate it, but only because, in certain section, the author's right. We all make excuses for why a guy we like doesn't sweep us off o...more
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Read in June, 2007
It's an okay book. The general concept behind it is good. Women should respect themselves and expect nothing less than the utmost respect from the guys they date. I agree with that message.
But while I agree with the principle behind the rules, some of the rules themselves are silly. For example, I believe in the principle that both parties should make an effort in a relationship. That doesn't mean that women should never ask a guy out. Even back before women's lib, women used to invite guys ...more
But while I agree with the principle behind the rules, some of the rules themselves are silly. For example, I believe in the principle that both parties should make an effort in a relationship. That doesn't mean that women should never ask a guy out. Even back before women's lib, women used to invite guys ...more
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Read in January, 2008
recommended to PlatKat by:
Aprilrecommends it for: broken-hearted girls
It burns, it burns! I'm not talking about the truth... in that sense, this book confirms what I already know. It's just frustrating to read all these letters from women who have let such bullshit go on for so long, and Greg's response is pretty much the same every time.
Also, the book assumes you want a serious relationship. Personally, I don't. But I don't want to feel dicked around either. I assume that most women are smart enough to know the difference between dating around and gettin...more
Also, the book assumes you want a serious relationship. Personally, I don't. But I don't want to feel dicked around either. I assume that most women are smart enough to know the difference between dating around and gettin...more
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Read in October, 2004
recommended to Anna by:
my friend Julietterecommends it for: females
For better or worse, I LOVED this book and do consider it to be life altering for me (okay, to an extent...). I realize it's been trash talked times ten in the media since it first came out but I do think it's extremely underrated.
I read it as a first year grad student and remember all these light bulbs going off in my head as I eagerly scanned the pages for information. As I read the letters and stories in the book, so much of my life started making sense to me! I started to see w...more
I read it as a first year grad student and remember all these light bulbs going off in my head as I eagerly scanned the pages for information. As I read the letters and stories in the book, so much of my life started making sense to me! I started to see w...more
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Read in July, 2008
Changed. My. Life.
Then again, this book has come to me during a strange week of self-revelations, so I can't give it all the credit.
What I can say is that is coincides with what a guy was telling me just a few days ago, a guy who never would read this book and maybe doesn't even know it's out there (and certainly doesn't know Ive read it).
I mean, sure it'd got the repetitive mantra of the title running throughout, and the ideas presented are so simplistic that they're almost absurd,...more
Then again, this book has come to me during a strange week of self-revelations, so I can't give it all the credit.
What I can say is that is coincides with what a guy was telling me just a few days ago, a guy who never would read this book and maybe doesn't even know it's out there (and certainly doesn't know Ive read it).
I mean, sure it'd got the repetitive mantra of the title running throughout, and the ideas presented are so simplistic that they're almost absurd,...more
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I borrowed this book out of my friend's bag. To be quite honest, I didn't really read the whole thing... I skimmed and read selective parts (intro, selected examples from each chapter, end). There are so many "Examples" of people asking for advice or an explanation - and the answer is the same for all of them of course - so you get the idea after a few pages. It is a little funny and definitely a good wake up call to remind you just to walk away when you're not being treated right o...more
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Read in January, 2006
recommends it for:
folks frustrated with dating
The title is off-putting. But the idea is simple: why waste one moment of your precious time on somebody who doesn't think you're the cat's pajamas? If s/he doesn't dig you like you deserve to be dug, drop him/her, stop wasting your time barking up a lame tree.
This book is empowering - it has become my post-breakup manual, and my copy has notes in the margins about each of the lovely gents who, alas, were just not that into me. (It's also been informative using the book like this because ...more
This book is empowering - it has become my post-breakup manual, and my copy has notes in the margins about each of the lovely gents who, alas, were just not that into me. (It's also been informative using the book like this because ...more
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When i first heard about this book i laughed because someone actaully took the time to write about how men think. Once i started reading the book, i realized that myself just like all the woman in the book have been in the same situations. If your the type of woman, who can't seem to hold onto a man then i recommend that you read this book and you will see why. I could relate myself back to many of the stories. This book will change your outlook on relationships, and will help you to see things ...more
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Read in May, 2007
As Greg says, guys will give signs when they're just not into the person. Some of the cases are fairly obvious to any but those involved while some can be a bit more complicated. But let's face it, if he's cheating on his wife with you, he's probably not that trustworthy. Some of Behrendt's suggestions are rather extreme though, such as the advice that if he doesn't call the day he promises to, get rid of him. The most interesting letters are those written by Nikki who clearly has horrible judge...more
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I suppose this is not the worst book I've ever read.
A friend of mine gave it to me after I (unknowingly) gave her the advice, I just don't think he's that into you. Apparently, this common sense is something that requires a whole book (or series of books now), a Sex in the City episode and...wait for it...an upcoming movie to get the point across. Doesn't it strike you just a little bit reprehensible that there is someone out there making money by telling women that sometimes ...more
A friend of mine gave it to me after I (unknowingly) gave her the advice, I just don't think he's that into you. Apparently, this common sense is something that requires a whole book (or series of books now), a Sex in the City episode and...wait for it...an upcoming movie to get the point across. Doesn't it strike you just a little bit reprehensible that there is someone out there making money by telling women that sometimes ...more
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Read in May, 2008
He's Just Not That Into You
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Non-Fiction
Audio Book
Everyone can use a daily wake-up call.
Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccill...more
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Non-Fiction
Audio Book
Everyone can use a daily wake-up call.
Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccill...more
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Read in July, 2005
recommends it for:
men + women
I learned from this book that it's probably a good idea to respect myself and not take any shit from guys. If I'm not being treated with the utmost respect, it's not worth my time and energy. We are letting guys get away with crazy shit!
Unfortunately, girls and women are being raised to accept disrespectful behavior. And we don't even realize it. We make excuses because it's a lonely world and we want to be loved.
But I read this book, and now I know that guys need to ask me o...more
Unfortunately, girls and women are being raised to accept disrespectful behavior. And we don't even realize it. We make excuses because it's a lonely world and we want to be loved.
But I read this book, and now I know that guys need to ask me o...more
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Read in September, 2007
This is a nonfiction that reads fast and isn't dull. I like that it's a guy and girl telling both their sides. I like that the male author is genuinely concerned about women finding men who aren't scum. He wants the female audience to be and act intelligently and to find wonderful, good men whom he thinks they deserve. And as every woman has the fault of over-analyzing everything, it helps to have a guy attempt to straighten out some of our thinking in one of the most frustrating parts of life. ...more
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