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Sep 27, 2010

erry rated it:

"Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak pernah berusaha untuk mendekati, menarik perhatian, menghubungi, menelpon, mengajak keluar dll yang menunjukan ketertarikannya kepada anda. Seorang pria tidak benar-benar mencintai anda kalau dia tidak mau menikahi anda atau dia berselingkuh".

Wanita sering mengalami kebimbangan untuk mengetahui perasaan pria terhadapnya. Kedekatan, kebersemaan, flirting, kata-kata basi, gombal, perhatian, etc. Tapi setelah beber More...

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Dec 29, 2010

Elizabeth rated it:

Eh, I wanted to hate this book. I dislike anything that the media (het hem, OPRAH) has picked up and run with and rammed down everybody's throats. I also hated the idea that, from what I heard, the author wants girls to be submissive, never make the first move, wait until the guy expresses interest, arrgh! Hated the idea, hate hate hate.

After I read it...I STILL hate it, but only because, in certain sections, the author's right. We all make excuses for why a guy we like doesn't sweep u More...

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Dec 03, 2007

Micah rated it:

I like reading texts that are feminist in nature. I expected (hoped for?) a book that served to empower women in their relationships, a book that addressed historical deficiencies in the way women are culturally taught to function in relationships or the way that a woman may prevent a man from stifling her natural motion in romance. As a true feminist or pop-feminist text I wanted to feel that a woman, after having sifted through the pages, would be better equipped to dismantle cultural blocka More...

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Jul 30, 2008

Rose rated it:

If loving this book is shallow, then I don't want to be deep.

It's a really fucking simple concept, and it's entirely encompassed in the title. In fact, I love how the title totally sounds like it's uber harsh. In reality, telling you that "he's not really that into you" is about the nicest thing someone can do to you!

This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination (take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover), but the concept is so important More...

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Dec 16, 2009

V. rated it:

I think that no matter who you are, you're never too good for a low-brow self-help book. If you date men, you should read He's Just Not That Into You, because this book serves as a reminder to make sure you're being treated with the respect you deserve. After you read this book, you will save a lot of time you would have spent making excuses for some deadbeat.

The book's also written in a very humorous, breezy, and clear style. You can read it quickly but the advice will stick with yo More...

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Mar 10, 2008

Danielle rated it:

Every single girl should read this book, and live by it! Its a book that states the obvious to us girls, but we are too wrapped up to actually see the situation for what it is......it is, being that 'hes just not that into you', Ive bought this book for a few of my single girlfriends, or gf's in crappy relationships.
It just makes sense. If he doesnt call you, he's just not that into you, period. seems to make complete sense. but how many of us sit around waiting for him to call?? lol
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Dec 17, 2009

Melissa rated it:

The title is off-putting. But the idea is simple: why waste one moment of your precious time on somebody who doesn't think you're the cat's pajamas? If s/he doesn't dig you like you deserve to be dug, drop him/her, stop wasting your time barking up a lame tree.

This book is empowering - it has become my post-breakup manual, and my copy has notes in the margins about each of the lovely gents who, alas, were just not that into me. (It's also been informative using the book like this More...

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Feb 03, 2008

Anna rated it:

For better or worse, I LOVED this book and do consider it to be life altering for me (okay, to an extent...). I realize it's been trash talked times ten in the media since it first came out but I do think it's extremely underrated.

I read it as a first year grad student and remember all these light bulbs going off in my head as I eagerly scanned the pages for information. As I read the letters and stories in the book, so much of my life started making sense to me! I started to see More...

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Feb 13, 2008

PlatKat rated it:

It burns, it burns! I'm not talking about the truth... in that sense, this book confirms what I already know. It's just frustrating to read all these letters from women who have let such bullshit go on for so long, and Greg's response is pretty much the same every time.

Also, the book assumes you want a serious relationship. Personally, I don't. But I don't want to feel dicked around either. I assume that most women are smart enough to know the difference between dating around an More...

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Dec 16, 2009

Kate rated it:

My co-workered referred to Greg (the author) as my "patron saint," and, for better or for worse, he's right. Greg has become the voice in my head when it comes to guys, mainly because he's always right. I wish this book had been around when I was younger, though it has become very useful in my 20's.

This is a book I constantly pick up again, just to refresh my memory, and just to feel a little bit better when I'm feeling down ("Don't Waste the Pretty"). It's fun More...

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Dec 12, 2008

sal rated it:

Sometimes I'm ashamed that I've read this book. ... But then, when I saw the preview for the new movie coming out, I gasped giddily and caught myself saying, "Oh! I love that book!"

So maybe my relationship with the book is like the relationships that are diagnosed in the book. Relationships in which one party (male) is sketchy and sometimes shows his affection but usually does not. I guess I wear the pants in this relationship...

If I was going to put it i More...

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Apr 01, 2011

e.c.h.a rated it:

Duduk termenung di bawah pohon rindang, memandang langit biru penuh dengan awan yang berarak-arakan. Merasakan angin lembut membelai jiwaku, menikmati anugerah Tuhan yang paling Indah bernama "CINTA"

ps: Mbak Roos mau duduk disebelah ku?

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Aug 18, 2010

Lesli rated it:

While I don't necessarily agree with everything in the book, I get what the author is saying.

This slim, one hundred sixty-five page volume of humor, honesty, and tough love has given me an interesting outlook on relationships, men, women, and priorities.

Reading HJNTIY cracked me up as much as it opened my eyes. Just reading the introductions had me laughing out loud.

And sadly (and most embarrassingly), we [men:] would rather lose an arm out a city bus window t More...

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Aug 10, 2011

owl rated it:

ah kamuh, gak seru, greg. masa cuma cowok yang boleh melakukan apa saja setelah menemukan cewek yang diangan-angin-ingin-kannya supaya si cewek bertekuklutut . kalau cowok melakukan itu, persimu artinya he's into you. isshh, masa cewek cuma dijadiin objek cowok aja. lucu amat jadinya kalo kayak gini: setelah kencan, tiba-tiba cowok itu menelponmu, dan mengajakmu bertemu lagi. setelah menutup telepon, kamu berteriak kegirangan, jingkrak-jingkrak sambil teriak "yeaaa...aku terpili More...

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Feb 01, 2010

Ann rated it:

I listened to the audiobook, read by the authors. And it's pretty hilarious, if you go for the whole "this is how I am, therefore, every man is that same way, therefore you should always only behave like this" thing. I mean, that's some serious research right there.

At the same time, I mostly think Greg is right. Women believe they are getting mixed signals from men, when really, the only thing they need to understand is that the absence of the right positive signals = ne More...

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Feb 06, 2009

Amy rated it:

****Update***** No I didn't read the book again but I should have read my review last week. So I went to see the movie tonight. It was awesome! I wish I had seen the movie oh maybe a month or so ago, but then I wouldn't have learned what I needed to know. So now I know hope is restored and I am moving forward. P.S. this movie is good for a laugh, even if you are married. But I don't see the point in going to see it if you are married. Hmmm

Those of you that are married aren't you so More...

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Jan 13, 2010

Lesley rated it:

So, I decided to read this book because the movie is coming out soon, plus a few of my friends have read it and while dishing about ex-boyfriends over lunch have often said to me "he's just not into you" and then told me to read the book. I wish I had done so earlier and not wasted so much time on "Mr. short and fat" the not-so-into-me lawyer that never called me, never made time for me but I was totally obsessed with him for over a year (although we only went on one date, a More...

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Dec 06, 2007

Brianna rated it:

There were some good points, I'll admit, although most of them were really big "common sense" ones - like, if he's a drunk and verbally abusive to you, or if he's cheating on you, he's not that into you and you need to leave him (well, um, duh.)

But the book takes all of the complexities of a relationship and distills them down to "if you don't get exactly what you want exactly when you want it, move on because he's not that into you". Men are dumbed-down, usually More...

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Jun 28, 2007

Tyler rated it:

As Greg says, guys will give signs when they're just not into the person. Some of the cases are fairly obvious to any but those involved while some can be a bit more complicated. But let's face it, if he's cheating on his wife with you, he's probably not that trustworthy. Some of Behrendt's suggestions are rather extreme though, such as the advice that if he doesn't call the day he promises to, get rid of him. The most interesting letters are those written by Nikki who clearly has horrible judge More...

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Aug 09, 2008

Elizabeth rated it:

I suppose this is not the worst book I've ever read.

A friend of mine gave it to me after I (unknowingly) gave her the advice, I just don't think he's that into you. Apparently, this common sense is something that requires a whole book (or series of books now), a Sex in the City episode and...wait for it...an upcoming movie to get the point across. Doesn't it strike you just a little bit reprehensible that there is someone out there making money by telling women that sometimes one pe More...

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Dec 07, 2007

Eszter rated it:

from this book, i learned that apparently, all 5473 dates i've gone on in the last half year, as well as the 623 people who i've gone on them with, have been completely worthless and i was stupid to think otherwise. just plain stupid!! an advisable future plan is as follows: i must wade through a sea of unworthy men at a steady rate of about five dates per week, allowing myself to take no action outside of accepting or declining their suggestions. sadly, they are all bound to not be that into me More...

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Feb 11, 2009

Elena rated it:

I read this book a few years ago, after dating jerk after jerk. It helped wake me up to the part I was playing in allowing myself to be treated badly by jerks. It's the slap in the face every girl needs who ever made an excuse for a lame guy in her life. The book is split into sections that decode mysterious boy behavior, gives some real life examples, and tells how you should and should NOT deal with the scenario. It's sort of like having your best guy friend read you the riot act.
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Sep 25, 2011

Robyn rated it:

This book could not have come into my life at a better time -- college!!

By following some of the advice in this book, I was probably saved from more heartache than I even realize.

It's funny because everything in this book is stuff you "know," but it's easy to imagine the "what ifs." This book pretty much slaps you across the face with the realization that "what if" is worthless. When it comes to guys, there is no "what if"...it either More...

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Mar 11, 2010

Courtney rated it:

What female doesn't want a look into the male mind? This is an honest, no-excuses look at men and their thinking about dating and relationships. The best part - its written by a man who wants women to honestly know when a man isn't interested and leading us on and is just "wasting our pretty". I read it over and over and always find jewels of wisdom.

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May 02, 2009

Samantha rated it:

I loved this book! If you only take one message away from this book let it be this: You are beautiful, you are worthy of being loved. Greg and Liz provide many examples of what love does NOT look like and while their tales are used to teach, they also entertain. I would recommend this book to every woman on this planet as its big aim is to help inflate women's self esteem, but I'd also go so far as to recommend this book to EVERYBODY because I'm a pop culture fiend and I believe there is value t More...

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Mar 14, 2009

Elizabeth rated it:

I wanted to read this book before seeing the movie, but seeing the movie first did not ruin the good advice of the book. Evidently, I needed to get the hint, so I sat down with a borrowed copy of the book to try and "change my life." (My friend who loaned me the book indicated that it had done that for her.) I have to say that I don't know that my life was changed by reading it. Honestly, it is all common sense. But, when it comes to matters of the heart, as women we rarely want t More...

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Jan 17, 2009

Shana rated it:

Quick read - only 150+ pgs - let's face it - this book was not intended to be some sort of deep psychological feminist awakening - if it were, it would not have a cutesy pink cover and it would have a lot more than 150+ pages and it would have been co-written by someone with a PHD. Please rate the book for it's intended purpose - a straightforward dating guide for the single woman. If you are happily married, skip it and move on OR read it and remind yourself to be exceptionally grateful for t More...

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Jan 15, 2009

Barky rated it:

This self-help, relationship, how to understand guys type book was put together by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo who both worked on projects for the HBO TV series, Sex and the City. Behrendt's basic premise is that much of the bewildering behavior displayed by men can be explained by the fact that they may just not be into you (you being the female counterpart in the quote unquote relationship), and they're too wimpy/lazy/insert some other word here to tell you that.

It's structured More...

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Jan 08, 2009

Karen rated it:

This is the second book I bought and first book I finished on my new Kindle!

I was kind of embarrassed to buy it (which is why the kindle is so nice), but I figured what the heck, I will admit to the world that I read it and go ahead and even review it.

Behrendt actually gives some real, honest good advice. It may not be what you want to hear, but there is a lot of truth in it. Why waste time with someone who is simply "not that into you." The main bulk of the bo More...

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Sep 11, 2008

Christy rated it:

Sadly, this book is SO TRUE for women (and even for most men). We do crazy things when we think we are in love, and treat ourselves poorly. And as you read this book, you think "I know someone like this" or "This is/was me!!!" and the relevations are hilarious. My mom didn't find it too funny when I gave this book to her to read when she was in the midst of a divorce from my father, but she read it and I think in a way it helped her to see how bad my dad treated her and that More...

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