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You Know Where to Find Me

3.25  ·  Rating Details ·  1,495 Ratings  ·  218 Reviews
Miles has spent her whole life in the shadow of her cousin Laura. Laura is the golden one—smart, gorgeous, rich, and popular—while Miles considers herself the unwanted one—an unattractive, underachieving social outcast. As far as Miles is concerned, Laura has the perfect life…until Laura commits suicide, leaving Miles lost the wake of the event. Losing Laura shatters Miles ...more
ebook, 208 pages
Published January 25th 2011 by Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers (first published March 4th 2008)
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Rachel Cohn sort of irritates me as a writer without David Levithan to even her out. I don't know if it's genuinely her style or that she's really into Francesca Lia Block or something, but, man, Rachel, sometimes all the froufy language and switches in tenses and made-up stories just sort of irritate me.

In the plus column, I really loved the character of Jim. Of course in my head he was played by Tim Gunn.
Jul 20, 2008 J.D. rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Some nice writing, and I wanted to like it a lot more than I did, but:

1. When you have a character this angry and bitter, it's a real challenge to make the reader like them or even care much. Unfortunately, this book doesn't rise to the challenge.

2. I finally gave up after about the fifth lecture about DC Home Rule. Okay. I get it. I know this is an issue that the character cares a lot about, but it just gets preachy. see (1) above.
Jennifer Wardrip
Reviewed by Dianna Geers for

Laura and Miles grew up together. They were cousins who lived so close that Miles could sneak out of her room on scary, stormy nights and escape to the safety of Laura's bed. They spent hours in their tree house and hiding out in their favorite bookstore. As little girls became adolescents, though, being related and living near each other didn't guarantee closeness.

Miles liked to eat and drink. And smoke. Her body put on weight, her poorly-dyed hair
Christina Wilder
More like 2.5 stars, but I'm rounding down as this didn't affect me as much as I would have liked.

Suicide is a tricky subject. Mental health in general is rarely - if ever - depicted correctly in fiction, and depression is no exception. While I liked how this book showcased the aftermath of suicide (survivor guilt/anger, warning signs seen in hindsight, etc.), this story became burdened by Miles.

I read in another review that if a character is too bitter all the time, it's hard for the reader to
super captain man
This is honestly one of the first books I've had this year that I had difficulty finishing. I didsliked this book for a few different reasons:

1. The plot for this book was really weak. A girl's cousin dies and the girl continues her life before the death, except sometimes she seems kind of sad about her cousin.

2. The writing style. It was really weird the way some things were said.

3. MILES. I really, really disliked Miles. All she did was complain. Her best friend (cousin. Sister. Laura) dies an
Steph (Reviewer X)
Cross-posted from my blog review:

Uh... Okay, how do I put this? No idea.

How do I reenact this? Well, first we get an emoticon: o_O. Steam blowing from the side to indicate mental exertion? Optional. Whatever you call that sound you make when you’re blowing spit bubbles, playing in the background? MANDATORY.

(Shakespeare would’ve been proud.)

In the interest of brevity—I don’t want to spend more time thinking about this one than I have to—I’ll summarize the

Laura and Miles used to be cousins and best friends. They grew up in the paradise of their tree house, enacting fairy tales. You don’t know differences when you’re younger. So Laura was a blonde, blue-eyed perfect princess and Miles was a plump girl who started reading at the age of four and never stopped. So what? That didn’t stop them from doing Brownies, Girl Scouts, summer camp, swimming and dancing lessons together.

Adolescence caused them to grow apart, because soon these differences do mat
Oct 30, 2009 Rebecca rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
You Know Where To Find Me was an interesting book. It was interesting enough to keep me reading it but it didn't completely engross me. It's a hard book to talk about because I'm not entirely sure about it.
Sure, it was quite interesting, from the start I was wanting to know where it was going. But as I got further and further into it, it just became really predictable and kind of cliché.
The characters didn't really capture me emotionally either. I felt that when the mood was supposed to be sad a
Oct 30, 2012 Trisha rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
page 34 - "she did not kill herself as a means of escaping something. She simply chose not to live. There's a difference."

It's weird...but I found a book about suicide boring.

No, boring isn't the right word. I think I just didn't connect with any of the characters. The conversations were strange for me because they seemed...forced? had confusing slang/lingo? never seemed to be about what they were actually saying but I could never actually squeeze out the real meaning either...

and, honestly, Mil
Feb 02, 2011 Lea rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I usually don't write reviews on books, but this one needed one. This book was AWFUL. I should have known I wasn't going to like it because I tried to read a book from this author once before and it bored me to death. This book felt like there wasn't much a point to it except that the sister/cousin girl over dosed and died. There was absolutely no climax or turning point in this book... my suggestion is to not waste your time.
Apr 04, 2008 Hayden rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: teen, suicide
This book is getting on my nerves. I'm about 40 pages in, and I'll give it 50, but unless it seriously picks up I'm going to chuck it. It keeps vacillating between omniscient past tense (the words "Once upon a time" are used repeatedly) and first person present tense. I get the feeling Rachel Cohn thinks she's being Very Extremely Literary, but in fact it just sucks.

Mar 17, 2009 Akilah rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Wow, so I really hated this book. Besides nothing happening, the narrator is fat. No, really. She's FAT and she loves to eat but she hates herself because she's FAT and no one will ever love her because she's FAT and FAT FAT FAT FAT FAT.

Her real problem is that she's BORING because she's so obsessed with being FAT.
Suad Shamma
Nov 23, 2012 Suad Shamma rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own, 2011
I enjoyed reading this book, and it did make for a fast-paced read, but I can't say it was fully developed or great.

If I were to compare the character development, plot and storyline of this novel to other Rachel Cohn novels, then I would say she fell short writing this one. But if I were to compare the themes depicted in this novel to her other novels, then I'd have to say there were some very interesting, profound and serious themes that needed to be accentuated or even played up.

Miles is not


BOOK: You Know Where to Find Me
Author: Rachel Cohn

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• Page 7, I don’t get Miles. She could be a straight A student, I don’t care! She is stupid in the head! The teachers say she is born with the power to write, and read but yet se chooses not to. Why would she want to do that?!
• Page 7, OMG! She sounds like the smartest student ever, why won’t she just try?
• Page 9, when she brings up once a time, I feel like she is saying the things she wants to happen or the things that
Oct 31, 2016 Zainab added it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 6
“You know where to find me “ by Rachel Cohn is a realistic fiction story set in Washington D.C. it is an interesting book which tells the story about the girl Miles who considered herself as unwanted one. The story is told by the first person narrator and it is a journey of loss and forgiveness.
Miles is the protagonist of the book. She thought that she is irrelevant to her mom Mel and her dad. That is why they left her alone and got busy in their lives. But the person to whom Miles was close wi
Nov 20, 2008 Becky rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
You can almost always find our heroine, Miles, popping pills, getting high, or smoking. She's a drug addict who is content--or content enough at least--living a very wasted life. She plans on dropping out of high school once she turns eighteen. Even the suicide of her cousin, Laura, (drug overdose) fails to get through to her. Life is meaningless, right? It doesn't matter. It just doesn't matter. Miles is overweight, unhappy, and seeking release through drugs. She doesn't necessarily want to die ...more
Alicia Scully
Miles and Laura grew up more like sisters than the cousins they really are and they were inseparable until about high school age. Miles feels like Laura is far too perfect with her thin frame, happy (outward) demeanor, and popularity while Miles is a self-proclaimed chubby girl who is both goth and unfriendly. When Laura suddenly kills herself, Miles is hurt and confused by Laura not inviting her along for the ride. She must also deal with her drug addictions and her beliefs that no one truly ca ...more
Oct 31, 2013 Jennifer rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book has amazing characters, Miles and Laura are like sisters but they really are cousins. Miles was left with her uncle which is Laura's dad he natures Miles while her father gets better and her mother comes back. While living most of her life with Laura they become very close. Laura is a very beautiful smart popular girl and Miles looks at herself as unattractive and unpopular. For some reason Laura decide she doesn't want to stick around anymore and Miles goes on with her life full of lo ...more
May 19, 2008 Barbara rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Laura and Miles were cousins but they might have been sisters, they were so close. They grew up together and shared everything--talks in the tree house, cigarettes, snacks, prescription drugs--until Laura kills herself, that is. Miles was left to deal with the emotional detritus left behind after Laura’s death. Miles can not understand why Laura did it when she had everything, beauty, popularity, a loving, rich father, a great boyfriend, where Miles was overweight, preferred her books to people, ...more
Jul 06, 2009 M rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: trauma
"If she could only tell him the sum total of all she loves in him, he'd know she wasn't some ignorant kid who couldn't possibly understand or could experience love; he'd see that she knows it and she hurts for it." - You Know Where to Find Me, Rachel Cohn

When perfect cousin Laura commits suicide, Miles must find a way to understand and cope with the grief and turmoil that's left behind.

I really liked the whole message and point of this book. However, I gave it three stars because I often found i
Feb 26, 2010 Jaci rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: noone
Shelves: boring
I've had this book for a while and just never got around to reading it. As soon as I began this book I had no interest but decided to give it a chance. The entire time reading it, I found myself having to re-read pages because I dozed off. I didn't care about the character and thought it was so boring. The idea sounded good but I just didn't like it. It was a really quick read and it seemed like it was over before I knew it, but not because I liked it. I just wish I hadn't of spent 10 bucks on i ...more
Jasmine Diaz
Feb 11, 2011 Jasmine Diaz rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book is about a girl named 8 mile and her cuzin named laura 8 miles cuzin killed herself laura was the preety skinny girl and 8 mile was the chubby girl that nobody wanted to hang with besides one person named Jamal. He and his sister was her only friend. 8 Mile had a problem with rules she didnt care to much for them or the government. She read all the time that was her escape from reality and dealing with the death of her best frind/cuzin.
8 mile became addicted to drugs and ended up odin
Feb 22, 2009 Alicia rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
A disappointment for Cohn fans. She has her characteristic witty females, but in this story, the characters lack plausibility and depth. Miles goes into depression after her beautiful cousin kills herself. The true mystery becomes what Miles' true relationship is with Laura.

"Help me out here, kid? Don't you have anyting to say to your old man?"
I repeat back to him an AA adage from a poster I saw on the wall there: "Don't speak unless you can improve upon silence."
I don't really have much to say about this book as I never really got into it properly! I finished it but didn't really enjoy it. I thought the writing was all over the place- the tense changing just annoying me too much and did not work as smoothly as it could have. I thought I would like this book but it really disappointed me. Just nothing exciting or unusual and definitely not memorable.
L. G. Schmidt
Dec 13, 2012 L. G. Schmidt rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: No one
Recommended to L. G. by: Amazon
Oh my Lord this book was terrible. I couldn't even bring myself to finish it. First of all, it was far too political, and second of all, I felt absolutely zero sympathy for the awful protagonist.
Miss Bookiverse
Kurz und knapp
Stilistisch ein Volltreffer. Rachel Cohn schreibt poetisch, ehrlich und originell. Inhaltlich ist der Roman gewöhnungsbedürftig. Themen wie Drogenkonsum und das politische System in Washington D.C. werden sehr detailiert beschrieben und diskutietiert, sicher nicht jedermanns Geschmack.


Lang und breit
Nach den ersten paar Seiten war ich hin und weg. Der Anfang wird wie ein modernes, originelles Märchen erzählt und handelt von einem Mann namens Jim, der unbedingt ein Kind ha
Sydney Johnson
Jan 01, 2017 Sydney Johnson rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
A disappointment. Don't waste your time. Thought this would offer insight into loss and dealing with suicidal thoughts but it was mostly just boring and insulting to differing political views.
Like so many, I first came to Rachel Cohn after having read Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist. I had liked David Levithan's role better than Cohn's. The two things I liked the least were the Norah chapters and the plot, the two things that Cohn had the most to do with. Thankfully, this book was much better than I expected.

First of all, I need to address the depressing realism. Because it is very real. And very depressing. It was quite saddening to read about Miles's complete disenfranchisement
Cousins Laura and Miles grew up like sisters, but high school has separated themattending different schools, Laura has become attractive and successful, Miles overweight and underachieving. When Laura's sudden suicide separates them for good, Miles begins a downward spiral of overeating, drug use, and depression. You Know Where To Find Me is based on the absence of Laura, but it heart lies with Miles, her downfall, and her journey back to life. This should be enough content to make up a novelbut ...more
Superficially different, two cousins, Laura and Miles were inseparable, growing up like sisters. ‘Laura being tall, slim and still fairy blonde, popular, academically gifted with an inevitable all star boyfriend’ (5) with Miles on the other hand ‘burying the tonnage packed onto the generous curves of her chest and hips, artificial black hair with peeks of natural blond at the top, giving her the bloated inverted porcupine look' (6). It is evident that the two girls are completely different, wit ...more
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Rachel grew up in the D.C. area and graduated from Barnard College with a B.A. in Political Science. She has written many YA novels, including three that she cowrote with her friend and colleague David Levithan. She lives and writes (when she's not reading other people's books, organizing her music library or looking for the best cappuccino) in New York City.
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