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Holding Time

3.26  ·  Rating Details ·  42 Ratings  ·  6 Reviews
Simon & Schuster, 1989, Fine., Bright, clean, tight. Fireside paperback. [Family, Children, Parenting] Out-of-print and antiquarian booksellers since 1933. We pack and ship with care.
Published October 15th 1989 by Simon & Schuster (first published 1988)
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Kathy Houglum
Dec 29, 2015 Kathy Houglum rated it did not like it
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I could never recommend this book because much of the therapy within this is done forcibly to the child--the coercion is a joke.

I was one of the kids who went through these so called "treatments," as a kid (since I was adopted), and I'm currently going through PTSD therapy because of it. It does not make the child bond at all--if anything, it makes them learn how to dampen/fake emotions further so as to prevent more of these "treatments."

The entire treatment is shown as a "cure-all" for many ove
Jul 25, 2009 Sasha rated it it was ok
I heard of this book and the theory of "holding time" many, many years ago from a homeschool friend who was advising another on how to deal with difficult children. It peaked my interest and I've implemented my own version off and on over the years with my kids. I believe in the principle, have seen the practice work, and can even witness to it working ON ME. (My husband has been doing this with me for years, though he doesn't know this is what he's doing. It's always been his instinct when I ge ...more
Aug 06, 2007 Aspidistra rated it did not like it
I know this book is very popular with a lot of adoptive parents, particularly for infants and toddlers. Because my kids are older, I can't address the specifics of its use in younger children.

My first problem with the book is that it's presented as if holding time is a magical cure for everything. I am skeptical of any book that promises this.

My most significant problem, though, comes with the holding itself. This is not a book about cuddling with your kids to help them feel safe and loved. It
May 27, 2012 Carrie rated it did not like it
This book is over 200 pages and could probably be reduced to about 20. It's very repetitive. I think the author means well, but this is not for every family as the author insists it is. Holding children can be a good thing, but I disagree that it should be done against their will. You can call it what you want, but it's another form of restraint. I don't view that in a positive light.
Ceanne Kosel
Jan 21, 2009 Ceanne Kosel rated it it was amazing
Every parent that wants a well behaved child, an excellent relationship with them and peace with siblings needs to read this book. As well as any grandparent or relative and close friend. Simply a book EVERYONE should read.
Aug 03, 2012 Debi rated it did not like it
I would never recommend this! I think it further traumatized my child who was already traumatized from his adoption!
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