Kiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art
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Kiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art

3.81 of 5 stars 3.81  ·  rating details  ·  2,111 ratings  ·  265 reviews
Gene Wilder is one of the great comic actors who defined the 1970's and 1980's in movies. From his early work with Woody Allen to the rich group of movies he made with Mel Brooks to his partnership on screen with Richard Pryor, Wilder's performances are still discussed and celebrated today. "Kiss Me Like A Strange"r is an intimate glimpse of the man behind the image on the...more
Paperback, 261 pages
Published January 1st 2005 by Griffin
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Meagan
Aug 29, 2007 Meagan rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: any vaguely creative person, anywhere
Shelves: 5stars
Amazing, amazing, amazing. I've always loved Gene Wilder, and usually I shy away from autobios by people I love, just for the simple fact that I might end up not liking them as much once I hear them speak. But Gene Wilder is Gene Wilder, and I snatched this up as soon as I found it.

I was not disappointed. He was different than I thought he'd be - of course - but there were so many things I could relate and sympathize to, I was suprised. It was one of those wonderful realizations of finding a kin...more
Lily
Before reading this book, I was a huge fan of Gene Wilder and included him on my list of "Celebrities I'd Like to Get a Drink With." I am still a fan of and believe that he is one of the funniest actors ever, but I no longer want to have a drink with him. Why? Because this book made me realize on thing: Gene Wilder is kind of an asshole.
Lavonne
I read this after reading Gilda Radner's "It's Always Something". I thought it would be interesting to read the other side of the story and see what his perspective was. I had come away from Gilda's book with the idea that Gene Wilder was a saint. From his book, I concluded that he is altogether human, with faults and all. Still, he comes across as very down-to-earth, humble, and unfailingly kind.

He went through a lot of tough times, in his career and his personal life. With regards to Gilda, a...more
Callie Rose Tyler
I once saw a meme that pinned Gene Wilder's Wonka against Johnny Depp's and it said something to the effect that Wilder is a nobody and Depp is an acting god, it annoyed me. Now I had a wall of Depp pictures that I had cut out from magazines but I will be the first to say that Wilder's Willy Wonka was far superior to Depp's very entertaining rendition. Also, Gene Wilder has been in many other amazing films...Young Frankenstein, The Producers, Blazing Saddles and the Richard Prior/Gene Wilder fil...more
Samantha Glasser
In Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, Gene Wilder's character says, "A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men." This idea has become his persona in the movies which has brought him many fans over the years. Wilder, star of hits like Blazing Saddles and Young Frankenstein, has written his autobiography. The title Kiss Me Like A Stranger was given to him by his late wife Gilda Radner of Saturday Night Live fame. While they were married, she vivaciously yelled out the title...more
Amy
Gene Wilder strikes me as somebody who has been holding back his whole life to protect himself from anxieties, which are probably genetic and triggered when his mom first fell ill. He uses acting to feel all the things he's too afraid to feel in real life. It's not really all that complicated, but he never seems to come out and say it point blank despite the "therapist" he talks to throughout. Or if he did, I missed it between all the tedious details of his career that could have been found on i...more
tina
Jun 29, 2013 tina added it
I've been brooding over this one. Things I didn't know about Gene Wilder: he's written many screen plays, he adopted a daughter, he studied acting quite a bit, and he's a part of the Actor's Studio. I had an affection for Gene Wilder. He's someone I always liked seeing on the screen, starting with Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory to Young Frankenstein to pretty much anything. But I probably should have been a bit more cautious about buying his book. I'd heard that he was doing a reading of...more
Joshua
I recently listened to Gene Wilder's 2006 memoir Kiss Me Like a Stranger while driving around Los Angeles. This is not a traditional life story memoir, but a series of moments that Wilder has chosen that exemplify the lessons of his life that taught him about two specific subjects: acting and women. Wilder honestly depicts how these two things have criss-crossed that made him the actor and man that he is. I'm not a big memoir fan, so was kind of into the non-traditional set-up of this rather tha...more
Stuart
Gene Wilder was born two blocks from my childhood home. He was the neighborhood boy made good, although parents were reluctant to express this sentiment to their children. It might give them ideas to pursue show business, a career path which no parent in that neighborhood wanted to encourage.

I read this book for research for a chapter in a novel. It's a very fast read. Wilder comes across as introspective and not flamboyant. It's hard to believe he has the makeup to be an actor, but clearly he d...more
Joy H.
Added 4/6/08.
I read the hard copy of this book sometime before April 2008. The book was first published in 2005.

10/24/11 - I am currently listening to an audio version of this book, read by the author. It's fascinating. Lots of interesting peeks behind the scenes of the entertainment industry. The personal remembrances of Gene Wilder are extremely interesting and the charm of his personality comes through as you hear his words. He seems like such a humble person and very likable. As I listen, it...more
Caroline
This short, charming autobiography is unlike any other actor bio I have ever read. Instead of hashing out major notable career moments and gossipy stories, he focuses on his own neuroses, women, and major lessons in acting from his life. In this way, the book provides infinitely more insight into Wilder's character than more traditional biographies. And despite the lack of trashy content, Wilder does not sugar coat people in his life (particularly Gilda) and it's refreshing to have a writer allo...more
Sara
Sep 12, 2014 Sara rated it 3 of 5 stars
Shelves: memoir
This book kind of made me hate Gene Wilder. I'm not particularly happy about that. It hit me like a sucker punch to the gut. The Spartan, cold writing I've so loved in his fiction managed to turn a man I've always viewed as compassionate, sensitive, and wonderfully creative into a cold, self satisfied, sex obsessed narcissist with absolutely no grasp on how to interact with other human beings in any meaningful way. Sure he has lots of "dear friends" and an endless series of "charming dinners" wi...more
Kelly
this book is a toss-up. i love gene wilder and was super excited about the book. unfortunately, it's poorly written and a bit disturbing. gene has kind of a fucked up childhood or maybe he just makes it seem that way because he's so overly dramatic and such a bad writer. nonetheless, the book is great for details about the projects he's worked on and trivia like that Young Frankinstein was his script and project.
Casey Danielson
Dag, I forgot how effortless a writer Mr. Wilder is. This is my third book of his, and the first non-fiction. Reading this autobiography is like sitting and catching up with an old friend—sit back and relax, and get ready to smile to yourself on your mass-transit system of choice. If you haven't read Wilder's fiction, DO IT!
Dlvierck
I went in to the book hoping for illumination and a bolstering of the grandeur I already associated with Gene Wilder. So, my bad. This is a very demystifying, disillusioning book. I very much liked how it was written. At times his tone seemed to betray his gentleness and emotional depth, but after considering the moments this problem crops up, I'd ascribe that to a rough balancing act - writing a book about artistic ambitions and navigating his own romantic life. I think most people will wish he...more
Sara
I listened to this on CD & thoroughly enjoyed the hours of Wilder's voice (I love it when the author narrates their own memoir!)
He has a terrific "voice" as a writer & comes across as a loving, sensitive man.
Karl
This was a GREAT read. I enjoyed Gene's perspective on life and relationships. There is a lot to be found between the lines in this one. It's a quick, entertaining, highly edible book!
Ellen Maze
Every page was a delight and so deep into Gene's personal life. He held nothing back. You will learn things about our friend that will surprise you!
Kim Arlia
Funny and different. Another view of Gilda Radner whose book I have read. I love Gene Wilder and was surprised to discover his quirks.
Paul
I love Gene Wilder's movies. So there. His memoir was well-written, odd, and darn interesting. Says me.
Donna
Life is strange. I read Wilder's autobiography because I read Gilda Radner's. I have enjoyed a lot more of her work than his; a lot of his comedy seems sort of slapstick (though he has written, produced, and directed a lot, and it may be I've seen some of this work and not recalled it as his).

But when push comes to shove, he writes a better memoir. Radner's is intense, but one also gets the sense that as a person, she's kind of handful, and so I felt I had to read her through a filter of sorts....more
Kitt-e-kat
Ok I usually read more Musician biographies than movie stars but I did enjoy reading Comedian(s) Richard Pryor & Steve Martin's books which I decided to read also Gene's book when I saw it. I grew up watching his slap stick movies along with the other two I just mentioned. I am a big fan of the cult (original) movie Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory - even though he doesn't get into much about that movie, he does seem to fit perfectly with Willy Wonka's personality on why he was perfect...more
Danielle
So this was actually absorbed via an audio book, while I traveled east and back this summer. I knew it was going to be long and haven't been able to find the time to read lately, so I figured I would give the audio book a go. I have to say that I did not have high expectations of the book. Biographies, for me, are a matter of curiosity, of wanting to take a different look or gain a different perspective on someone else's life. If that someone happens to be famous I find I usually like the writin...more
Teela
I was introducted and fell in love with Gene Wilder in the original 'Willy Wonka & The Chocolate Factory' which is one of my favorite movies. He was brilliant, quirky and for the most part, annoyed by youth. It was the perfect blend of a character initially created by Roald Dahl and brought to life by Wilder. I got to know him a little better and our relationship progressed in 'Blazing Saddles' which is the epitome of hilarious non-PC humor that people fear laughing at and look around first...more
Aries
Leggere l’autobiografia di un personaggio più o meno famoso è sempre un rischio"," sia che il personaggio piaccia"," sia che invece stia sulle scatole: rischio perché l’immagine che potrebbe venirne fuori potrebbe da un lato essere eccessivamente “abbellita”"," rendendo il personaggio sicuramente poco reale se non per i fan duri e puri"," e dall’altro potrebbe mostrare invece lati poco piacevoli che rischiano di “deludere” o confermare a seconda dei propri pensieri originali. La biografia di Gen...more
Michelle
to think all I really knew about Gene Wilder before reading this book was he'd been in Willy Wonka and some movies with Mel Brooks. sigh. He's an amazing human, writes beautifully, and has experienced so much.

He has had such an amazing life, and it was awesome to read about his descriptions of leaving his 2nd wife and their daughter, and how it was the cruelest, most necessary thing he'd ever done. And how wonderfully blessed he was to find his fourth wife so late in life but at the perfect time...more
Kerry
I wish Goodreads had 1/2 stars because I actually would have given this 2 1/2 stars. I picked this book up because I had heard of the great love story between Gene Wildre and Gilda Radner, who died of ovarian cancer at the age of 43 while they were married. If you read this book for the reason I did, you will be disappointed as he doesn't even mention Gilda's name until Chapter 25 (page 187 of a 247 page book). I was also disappointed in him as a person -- he cheated on his first wife, he left h...more
Audrey
Okay, first off, let's just get this off the table before we do anything else. Is there really anybody in the whole world who wants to know the intimate details of Willy Wonka's love life? Hm. Right. I thought not. Now that that's cleared up.
This predictably egocentric book about the jerk that is Gene Wilder reaches a point of inane self-obsession when Wilder asserts that his pre-marriage affair with Gilda Radner was the supreme act of unselfishness on his part. I had no idea when I picked up t...more
Mediaman
This odd book is part career autobiography, part family medical history, and the sum of the parts is less than satisfying. Gene Wilder has made a number of notable films but he doesn't talk much about them here. If you want to know anything about Willie Wonka you'll have to look elsewhere because he quite vocally and intentionally snubs it here with merely a few paragraphs. The same with many of his other well-known works, some that just get a single-sentence mention! Young Frankenstein gets a b...more
China Bialos
Initially, this seemed a poorly written, somewhat scattered collection of anecdotes, written as Wilder recalled them, but it became more cohesive by book's end, surely because different events became better remembered and connected as they grew closer to the present. I suppose what most surprised me was the unflattering light in which Gilda Radner was painted - as Wilder would tell it, they seem to have married only because he saw her as a fragile mess who needed him for support, and it was real...more
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Gene Wilder is an American Emmy Award-winning and twice Academy Award-nominated stage and screen actor, director and screenwriter.

Wilder began his career on stage, making his screen debut in the film Bonnie and Clyde in 1967. His first major role was as Leo Bloom in the 1968 film, The Producers. This was the first in a series of prolific collaborations with writer/director Mel Brooks, including 19...more
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