Exclusive Author Essay Sabotage: The Most Overlooked Cause of Overweight
Twenty years ago I was a weight management idiot. I used to think that losing weight was a simple matter of eating right and exercising, and that anybody who got fat was just lazy and undisciplined. So when my wife and coauthor, Norean, began to gain weight shortly after we were married, I panicked. SheExclusive Author Essay Sabotage: The Most Overlooked Cause of Overweight
Twenty years ago I was a weight management idiot. I used to think that losing weight was a simple matter of eating right and exercising, and that anybody who got fat was just lazy and undisciplined. So when my wife and coauthor, Norean, began to gain weight shortly after we were married, I panicked. She didn't seem to know what to do about it, so I tried to solve the problem for her. Despite studying to be a clinical psychologist (meaning I should have known better!), I did a lot of stupid things that just made everything worse. I coached. I criticized. I tried to control. Nothing worked. We fought about weight with heartbreaking regularity. A few times we were so close to divorce that the only thing holding us together was fear of the unknown. Our biggest problem was that neither of us understood what was really going on. It took years for us to figure it out. But we finally did, and Fattitudes is the end product of our long, painful battle with emotional overeating.
In the crush of "eat this -- not that" books available today, Fattitudes is unique in its in-depth focus on the psychological complexity of overeating. It contains no recipes, no food plans, not a single fat-gram table. What you will find is a method for getting yourself emotionally prepared to do the work necessary to live a healthy lifestyle. Most of us know what to do to lose weight; what we need to understand is why we don't do it. Fattitudes focuses on sabotage as the universal obstacle to losing pounds and keeping them off.
What's a fattitude? It's a hidden thought or feeling that leads to self-defeating behavior in weight management efforts. Fattitudes lurk: They exist in the dark corners of our minds yet greatly influence our behavior. Battling fattitudes is like boxing with the Invisible Man or Woman: You can't see the punch but sure can feel the pain. A person plagued by fattitudes is often an emotional wreck: Inside, it's a war zone of competing goals and motivations. When fattitudes are afoot, failure follows, because when you're prone to self-sabotage, nothing works -- not even the best diet and exercise program. Fattitudes can come from within us or can be inflicted upon us by saboteurs in our personal relationships. As Norean and I discovered, friends, partners, and family members often create weight loss obstacles not easily seen nor solved.
Fattitudes can be as simple as "I'm not losing weight fast enough" and "I don't have time to exercise" or as complex as "I don't deserve to be successful" and "I need my partner to be fat so s/he won't leave me." The book provides a four-step self-help process for finding and foiling fattitudes -- forever.
So, if you've tried and failed repeatedly to lose weight and keep it off, we hope by reading Fattitudes you'll be able to learn from our mistakes and find your answers much faster than we did.