Last week, Michael Makai asked if I wanted to participate in an interview for Domination & submission radio. After throwing up and being reassured that this isn't about making me look like some sort of expert, I allowed myself to get excited and agreed to do the interview. Yay! Needless to say, it was a lot of fun and turned out to be something that was very beneficial in that it catapulted me over an internal hurdle I had been facing. Mike recorded the interview on Monday, and after editing out all my, You know... um, like, yeah, you know's, he broadcast live on Thursday and took questions from live callers.

The topic was on BDSM fiction writing and centered on the theme of the 50 Shades phenomenon, do you have an idea for a book, do you think you could do a better job, etc. (you can listen to the podcast by clicking here). We both got some great feedback, and I'll definitely look forward to having the chance to do it again.

Before the interview, Mike had given me an idea of the things he wanted to discuss but also said he tends to ask thought-provoking questions that come up during the course of the interview. I thought, What if he asks me this? What if he wants to talk about that? I didn't know beforehand just how much of my personal life I would be willing to share. Suffice it to say, I had some notes in front of me and was prepared, just in case. In some magical way, Mike reached through the phones and gently pushed me out of the nervous bubble in which I was trapped; within minutes, I found myself practically vomiting up a lot of my personal life. Vomiting isn't the sexiest metaphor, I know, but the way I felt after getting this stuff out of my head and into yours, well, it just felt so liberating.

Anyway, after doing the interview and listening to myself, I thought I sounded okay (thanks to editing), but one part that made me cringe was when I talked about all the porn I watch.

At first I was all, great. *shame face*
And then I was all, Meh, who cares? *shrugs*
And then I was all, yeah....*happy face*

And then I REALLY got to thinking.

You see, one of the first questions Mike asked was had I read E. L. James's books, which I haven't. The criticism she receives is widespread, and unless you're living under a rock, you know exactly what I'm talking about. But here's the thing, no matter what she did wrong, she still did a few things right.

E. L. James got people, specifically women, talking. I dare to say that she has helped a LOT of women feel more comfortable with their sexuality. We have been suppressed for far too long, and it's time for us to come out loud and proud because hey...

Sex is good.

It feels good, it looks good, it tastes good, it smells good, and it generally keeps the human race going.

If you listen to the interview, I also pretty openly discuss some of the BDSM activities that me and the hubs participate in. He enjoyed listening to the interview, and I remember looking at his face when it got to the part where I talked about all the porn I watch.

Wait for it...wait for it...

He actually smiled and threw his fists in the air, so yeah, that was awesome. It made me feel good to know that instead of being disappointed with my frankness, he was proud. I knew he wouldn't be mad at me for being honest, I just didn't know if he'd be like, "damn" with look of shock, or "damn" with a smile. Anyway, expect to see a lot more of me openly discussing our journey into this world.

Oh, and if you're thinking of writing a BDSM or D/s novel, make sure you check out some of his podcasts here. He's an expert, does weekly shows, and is passionate about educating on the critical components to a healthy D/s relationship and BDSM lifestyle.

Thank you Mike for a fun interview on an important topic!
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