My book The Cost of Hope is partly investigative journalism. But it is also a memoir.... a memoir of a rambunctious marriage that -- in retrospect -- was a lot like the kind of old movies that Terence loved to watch. You know, like "It happened One Night" where two people clash and clash and clash until they recognize the inevitable -- and fall in love. Or realize they've been in love all along.

People have been asking me whether it wasn't painful to write-- since this book was written after Terence died. My answer is always: Absolutely not. Quite the opposite. Writing a memoir was like giving me permission to spend another year with him. To spend some luxurious time going over all my favorite memories, to turn those memories into stories, to spend time going over pictures and home movies. It was actually great.
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Published on June 27, 2012 18:46 • 99 views • Tags: autobiography, cancer, couples, death, healthcare, love, marriage, memoir, memory
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message 1: by Amanda (new)

Amanda Bennett So how do you write about the reality of a marriage? Reviewers have pointed out that we had a volatile (!) relationship, which is true. But we also had a deeply loving relationship. How do you write about the fights and the conflicts and the making up in a way that is true to what they really were.... doesn't romanticize them, but at the same time recognizes how really romantic the relationship really was. I


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Amanda Bennett I'm writing a literary piece for the Wall Street Journal right now based on the theme of "can't live with them, can't live without them". I'm finding that some variation on that is a pretty common literary theme. I posted elsewhere on Goodreads looking for suggestions of other such literary couples -- and just off the top of my head, we get: Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy; Catherine and Heathcliffe; Scarlett and Rhett; and in real life: Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton; Martha Gellhorn and Ernest Hemingway and Lillian Hellman and Dashiell Hammett. I know there are more.

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