I had thought to write about a completely different topic today, but then I read this blog, written by this lovely mother who was being so genuine and so open and so honest - and then in the comments section the 2nd post was a judgmental horrible note from some other woman who took exception to the blogger for the most ridiculous reason (EVER!) and proceeded to knock her down eighteen flights of stairs, stomp on her crumpled broken body before dousing her in gasoline and setting her on fire...

...metaphorically speaking of course. :)

And after reading her comment I was just kind of disgusted.

Watching women be mean to other women really upsets me. It's like we have a special knack for it too - like, we know just how to word what will hurt and get under our fellow sisters' skins. And it makes me shake my head and want to get off the Interwebs forever.

But then I think about all the WONDERFUL women out there who have reached out to love and support me through the years and I have to remind myself that "hateful bitch" isn't the norm. And thank God for that. Seriously...THANK GOD FOR THAT!

Someone once asked me in an interview why I thought my books resonated with readers, and my answer was that I believed that the relationships Abby and M. J. had with their best girlfriends was one of the biggest factors.

It's how Candice and Cat always have Abby's back, and Teeko has M. J.'s back...that's the glue that has held the books together over the years.

Because we all have Candices, Cats, and Teekos in our lives - at least I hope we do. Those BFFs that - should you ever call on them to confess you might need help burying a dead body - are already reaching for the shovel. :)

Personally - I have seven, (SEVEN!) Candices, Cats, and Teekos. Candice is a conglomeration of five of my closest girlfriends and there actually are both a real Teeko and a real Cat, (albeit she's far less of a tiger and more of a sweet tabby) - my sister Sandy, who is one of the very best people I know.

I love these women with all my heart, and knowing them hasn't just made me a better person, it's made me a better writer because I've been able to wrap my heart around such an array of truly beautiful women. Women who are mothers, sisters, daughters, go-getters, athletes, business moguls, fellow intuitives, and all around genuinely wonderful friends.

I know, I know, I'm crazy lucky. But if you know a beautiful woman, someone who's had your back when no one else did, well, then you're pretty crazy lucky too.

So I say, HUZZAH to all the beautiful women out there, those Candices, Cats, and Teekos. If you're a best friend to someone like Abby or M. J., know that you are loved and appreciated in ways too numerous to count. :)

xoxo

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message 1: by Karen (new)

Karen Sistah power was so strong in the sixties and seventies. I have to wonder what happened. Sorry, there's no room available for the haters in my life.

Good post, Victoria.


message 2: by Victoria (new)

Victoria Karen wrote: "Sistah power was so strong in the sixties and seventies. I have to wonder what happened. Sorry, there's no room available for the haters in my life.

Good post, Victoria."


Awesome comment, Karen! xoxo!!!


message 3: by Ellen (new)

Ellen I've always relied on my girlfriends. Only another woman will understand how you feel. Look a those Progressive Soup commercials..."Is there a woman there I can speak to?" The older I get the more I want to surround myself with close girlfriends. They will always have your back!


message 4: by Victoria (new)

Victoria Ellen wrote: "I've always relied on my girlfriends. Only another woman will understand how you feel. Look a those Progressive Soup commercials..."Is there a woman there I can speak to?" The older I get the mo..."

Sooooooo true, Ellen! The girlfriends you have in your life after the age of 30 to 35 are the best! I think it takes us a little while to figure out how to be truly good to each other. I'm soooo with you on the older I get the more I surround myself with my gal pals, the bonds are stronger for some reason now than in my youth. Or, maybe it's just that I grew up a little. ;) Thanks so much for your comment! xoxo


message 5: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Robaldo There is a comment at the end of 'Mean Girls' that sums it up - Women could rule the world if only we stopped hating each other. Somewhere along the line someone made it cool to be a knocker, and decided the only way to get ahead is to stomp on the competition (as such). Hopefully I will bring my daughter up without those values (she's an animal lover, I figure that's a good start).


message 6: by Victoria (new)

Victoria Carmen wrote: "There is a comment at the end of 'Mean Girls' that sums it up - Women could rule the world if only we stopped hating each other. Somewhere along the line someone made it cool to be a knocker, and d..."

Yes!!! What Carmen said...times infinity!!! :) xoxo, you go, girl!


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