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July 14, 2015

Summertime brings with it a more relaxed attitude and atmosphere. Unfortunately - it can also summons a spiritually lax demeanor.

How can you infuse your quiet time and Bible study with a fresh spiritual jolt? One way I can think of is to re-familiarize yourself with two very well known sisters: Mary and Martha. 

Two very different women who adored and reverenced the Lord Jesus are the center of our study. Here is some general background information regarding these famous siblings.

Six days prior to the Passover Jesus visited a family to which He had an endearing fondness. As He made his way to Jerusalem He was keenly aware of the fact that He would most likely not see them again.  His trek to their home was a welcomed diversion from the constant travel, and a reminder of the close familial ties that drew Him back.
Jesus and His disciples had been in the remote city of Ephraim, near the wilderness area surrounding the nearby countryside. They made their way to Bethany, home of Lazarus – the one whom Jesus raised from the dead.  Sisters Mary and Martha were always a familiar and comforting sight to our Lord as evidenced by His joyful arrival.
For an in-depth look at these famous sisters you can read my two previous blog posts here:    A Tale of Two Sisters Part 1  and  A Tale of Two Sisters Part 2  They will give you a greater insight into their relationship with Jesus and their unique personalities.  

We all exhibit glimpses of the two natures of Mary and Martha. Our Lord Jesus identified the more excellent part for which we should seek after. My reason for reintroducing these two blog posts is to stir our hearts and minds as to why the Lord commended Mary and affectionately chastised Martha.  Let this not be an occasion to malign or criticize Martha – but rather let us examine our own motives and reasons for why we either come to her defense or rally around Jesus' gentle rebuke.

In my book Mission Possible  -  Chapter 5 - Timing is Everything!  -  I feature an application from John 11. Martha had a powerful dialog with Jesus about her brother's death that left her wrestling with His Deity and His powerful declaration regarding death and the resurrection.

I have personally gone through "dry periods" - times when I had a desire to be more like Mary, and yet fell so short of my own expectations. 
When satan whispers my failures in my ear, I generally respond with a stern dismissal and press into God all the more. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. (James 4:8)
Rededicate yourself to the things of God and let each day bring fresh possibilities. New mercies abound freely, but condemnation is straight from the enemy of your soul.
Purpose to reconnect with God in a powerful, new way. Embrace your "Mary" and appreciate your "Martha" - for in both you are a well balanced and productive disciple and Christ follower.



Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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June 23, 2015

Independence Day, commonly known as the Fourth of July, is a celebrated federal holiday commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence. On July 2, 1776 legal separation of the American colonies from the kingdom of Great Britain occurred, declaring freedom from their tyrannical rule. Afterwards, the Second Continental Congress debated and revised the Declaration, finally approving it on July 4th. 

Galatians 5 verse 1 says:
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free . Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. (NIV)
   
Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free , and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. (KJV)
   
It was for freedom that Christ set us free ; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery. (NAS)

Freedom comes with a price... 

Jesus Christ bought our freedom with his own blood. The Apostle Paul writes, "...for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23); "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8); "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 6:23).

We have a responsibility as Christians to uphold a different standard and to be an example to the world around us. We are light and salt (Matthew 5:13-16) 


Liberty sets us free...

Roy Lessin had this to say about liberty:  
"As the heart of the country breaks, God calls His people to open up a healing stream of love and prayer. Pray that broken hearts will turn to Him for healing, that grieving hearts will turn to Him for comfort, and that lost hearts will turn to Him for the gift of salvation that is in Jesus Christ alone. His grace is still being extended, His mercies are still new every morning, and His arms are still outstretched to embrace very hurting heart."

The following 3 minute video is of a Harvard Business School professor, Dr. Clay Christensen, giving a very sobering viewpoint of what happens when we as a nation forsake our foundation of faith. Anne Graham Lotz wrote a Charisma Podcast Network article here in which she boldly implies we have a choice that faces us today as a nation: Would we implode and disintegrate emotionally and spiritually?





Christ can restore our nation...

Pray that our nation will turn back to God.  Pray that our hedge of protection and blessing will be restored once again.  Pray for revival and a renewed interest in the things of God.  Pray for God's influence to permeate every aspect of our culture, politics, and national dialog.

"If My people, which are called by My name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."  (II Chronicles 7:14)

Don't take your freedom for granted. Celebrate this Independence Day knowing that God makes a way for your liberty to be possible - even in a sin-filled world. Jesus Himself declared, “Therefore, if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.“ (John 8:36)








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. 
Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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June 1, 2015

Oh, how we love to bash Eve for succumbing to temptation – but don’t we all struggle with that one? 

Satan does not tempt us in generalities. He is far too clever for that. He likes to pick out something specific to hone in on. Take discontentment, for example. He will tell you that you deserve so much more, or maybe something better, and of course, that one particular thing you don’t have. He just aimed his poison dart at your “pride” and you fell for it.

The enemy of our soul delights in focusing his deception on our desires or needs that haven’t been met.

He picks the time and place of our temptation and sends us an “engraved invitation”, hoping we’ll reply quickly. He knows when we’re tired, hungry, upset, depressed, lonely or sick we’ll be more venerable to his deceit. He patiently waits for us to let down our guard. God’s Word tells us to “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

Satan loves to create doubt regarding God’s love for us. He did the same with Eve. This is what he told her, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”  (Genesis 3:1)  He simply twisted the truth and got her to question God’s goodness and character. We must be careful to not fall for the same trick. God may have given you a personal promise or verse to cling to. You may be waiting for God to do something special in your family, or marriage, or with your children. Don’t let the father of lies trick you into believing his falsehood. He wants to destroy your trust in God and your confidence in Who He is.

We know from I John 2:16, “that all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father, but is of the world.”  Satan is the ruler of this age and our present world, and has been influencing the practice of sin since the beginning, starting with Eve. We must watch for signs of discontent and jealousy as we evaluate our circumstances. We must focus on God’s sovereignty and His wisdom. We cannot lean to our own understanding in matters pertaining to “the fairness of life”. We must believe God and His Word, and leave the results in His hands.

You may come to a point in your marriage when you were sure you heard from God about something, and then you didn’t see any evidence of God working it out.

You can be tempted to take matters into your own hands, at your own peril of course. We must surrender our desires and plans to be denied, changed, or granted as God sees fit. If through a broken heart He can bring His purposes to pass, then thank Him for breaking your heart.

I was tempted to contemplate divorce not long after my conversion to Christ, but God plainly spoke to my spirit, in that for me, that was not an option. I Corinthians 7:14, 16 says, “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy… For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?”

Temptation is around every turn, and in every decision. You must stay strong and focused on Jesus.


                              Here is one of my favorite posts regarding your spiritual readiness:                                                       Spiritual Armor - Dressed for Battle
Another one of my past posts regarding temptation:  In The Eye of the Beholder

Use His Word to diffuse temptation.  Jesus said, “It is written.” So be it!





Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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May 12, 2015

Do you feel as though you are in a spiritual tug-o-war? 

When you are living in an unequally-yoked marriage, there will be times when you feel as though you are being pulled in two different directions...

Do you struggle as I do with everyday occurrences that remind you of a scene in "Clash of the Titans"?  This epic story of good versus evil is found in many books, movies and fairy tales. So how does that correlate to a spiritually mismatched marriage?  

The Apostle Paul appeals to believers in II Corinthians 6:14 as follows: "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?"  His main focus was on everyday life choices including friendships, commerce and social activities. Christians are supposed to be separated unto the Lord to maintain a witness to an unsaved world.

However, he also lays out Godly principles in I Corinthians 7:10-16 regarding believers married to non-believers. He sums up with this: "For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" 

Just remember this... ... He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world (I John 4:4). 

First and foremost we must maintain our connection with Jesus Christ and feed our spiritual man [woman]. The world contends for our attention. This quote from C.H. Spurgeon's "Morning and Evening" says it all:  "It is the incessant turmoil of the world, the constant attraction of earthly things, that takes the soul away from Christ".

Be sure that you make time to charge your spiritual battery. You need to stay in fellowship with Jesus in order to live a Christ-centered life at home. Here is one of my Blog posts from the past that explains what I mean:  Exercise Profits Nothing


Next , don't view your spouse as the enemy. Remember they don't yet know the Lord as you do. They are spiritually "dead" to the things of God. In my book MISSION POSSIBLE - Chapter 2 The "Abigail Syndrome", I explain it this way:

"The world does make man like stone and cold to the things of God. Pray for your husband as in Ezekiel 36:26: "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh."  His spiritual death needs to be recognized by his flesh. When your husband dies to himself, it will be so God can raise him up with "resurrection power" to be the Godly priest of your home [God] intended!"  Copyright © Deborah McCarragher and God Mission Possible, 2010-2015 

Lastly , dwell with your mate in harmony as much as is possible. When my husband wants to watch something on TV that "grates" on my spirit, I just go upstairs to my office and watch something else. Having a heated discussion on what he wants to watch versus what I want to watch only leads to further division. We watch plenty of TV together - so I've learned to choose my battles carefully. 

Do what you can to live in peace. Give and take. Hold your tongue. Defer to your spouse's choices when practical and wait for an appropriate time to discuss your concerns. I wrote a Blog post on this subject here: Can't We All Just Get Along?

If you think you're going to "blow a gasket" - go for a walk. Step into another room and say an SOS prayer. Make provision for quality time for yourself. That way you'll be less likely to react in a dishonorable way.

Don't let the "tug-o-war" become a win or lose scenario. You can win by letting God have His way in your life and peace in your home.







Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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April 21, 2015

Yep - I had to bite my tongue... again.

Never return evil for evil or insult for insult... but on the contrary blessing - praying for their welfare, happiness and protection, and truly pitying and loving them. For know to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing (from God) - obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection. (I Peter 3:9 AMP)

I suppose I'm the only one that routinely visits this scenario. I'm having to once again swallow my pride, humble myself and return a kind word in exchange for a gruff remark.

"Did he get up on the wrong side of the bed again?" I ask myself.  Why do I feel that any little thing sets him off like a firecracker? Lord, I'm tired of getting my feelings hurt and my ego bruised again. Why must I always be the one to back down and extend grace?

Yes - I'm being melodramatic here for a reason.  First of all, when we continuously refer to ourselves and our feelings as we complain to the Lord, we are in effect answering in the rhetorical because we already know what the answer is.  We are Christians and we don't act like the world. We are to act like Christ.


A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.  (Proverbs 15:1)

Here is a brief excerpt from my book  MISSION POSSIBLE   Chapter 6   In The Meantime - Serve
I Peter 5:7 says, [in humility] "casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." Sometimes we have many concerns and burdens to cast upon Him. There are days we must ask God to forgive us for an attitude that is less than honorable. When my husband hurt me with a comment or action, I would find myself saying to God, "Forgive him, Lord, for he knows not what he does."  

We cannot afford to hold a grudge and give place to the devil. We must be peacemakers.  Matthew 5:9 says, "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God."  Love is the "bond of perfection" and you must "let the peace of God rule in your hearts..." (Colossians 3:14-15). We need to remind ourselves that "we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places" (Ephesians 6:12).  Your husband is not the enemy - Satan is!     © 2010-2015



I was listening to a sermon the other day via a pod cast by a well-known pastor. He was teaching on the subject of repentance with reference to the crowds that surrounded Peter as he was preaching during Pentacost. His boldness had dramatically increased after the Holy Spirit had empowered him and the other disciples. The Apostle Peter confronted them with the death of the promised Messiah and their own sin (Acts 2:36-41).
Paul writes to the Corinthians telling them that he rejoiced in the fact that their sorrow led them to a true repentance that in turn led to salvation (2 Corinthians 7:9-10).  I began to see with my spiritual eyes that godly sorrow in me would produce true repentance - not just "lip service" to the Lord.  My actions needed to align themselves with what I was "saying I would change." Christians have to repent too! 
I needed to turn from my former ways of coping with the difficulties in my marriage to a more Godly response that was born from a pure heart's motive.
Thankfully Jesus is a God of second chances. He knows our frailties. He sees our innermost struggles. If we ask Him for strength, perseverance, and wisdom He will oblige us in our request. Purpose to submit yourself to His plans and His ways. Remember, taking on His yoke is easier than trying to do it all by yourself (Matthew 11:29-30).

Speaking of submission - always view it from the perspective of submitting to Jesus. That will help you as your spouse's helpmeet to do what is required by the Lord to preserve harmony and a safety zone within your marriage.  Here is a link to one of my popular posts about submission:  Oh No - Not the S Word .

So tell me - what is your greatest stumbling block in your spiritually mismatched marriage?  Do you cry out to the Lord in frustration?  Have you seen a rise in spiritual tension in your home?

Stay on your knees... that just might be a sign of a pending breakthrough in the heavenlies...







Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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March 26, 2015

I AM the Light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.   (John 8:12)

In Him was life, and the life was the light of men.  And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it.   (John 1:4-5)


Very early in the morning, on the first day of the week, they came to the tomb when the sun had risen. (Mark 16:2)  

That morning must have been preceded by a very long night. Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, Joanna, and Salome (along with the other women) had witnessed Jesus' body being wrapped and laid in a tomb by Joseph of Arimathea, and Nicodemus just prior to the Sabbath.

As they approached the tomb with the prepared burial spices, they stood in stunned silence. The large stone had been rolled away.  Who could have done such a thing?  They went inside and found the body was gone.  Perplexed, they were startled by two men who stood nearby in shining garments. Seeing that they were afraid, they said to them, "Why do you seek the living among the dead? He is not here, but is risen!"  (Luke 24:5-6)

Easter is a celebratory time for Christians worldwide.  The resurrection of the Lord Jesus is the greatest pivotal event in history.  The gateway from death to eternal life was opened for everyone who believes in and accepts Jesus Christ as the promised Messiah.



This Easter spend time reflecting on what His life, death, burial and resurrection means to you personally. 
May we ~Rejoice in the Lamb's BloodMarvel at the Father's acceptance Glory in our Eternal home 

Please enjoy my other Easter posts from prior years...

The Cross is Passing You By
Empty Tomb to Full Heart
The Rocks Are Crying Out

One of my all-time favorite worship songs to enjoy...











Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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March 7, 2015

My dear friend's daughter is fighting the battle of her life. While walking and praying for her, I felt the Lord lay on my heart the chorus from the song
Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus .

Turn your eyes upon Jesus, Look full in His wonderful face, And the things of earth  will grow  strangely dim In the light of His glory and grace.

As I journeyed further in my prayer walk I began to see with my mind's eye what that meant:

Turn your eyes   is a specific directive - one that dictates effort and deliberateness. We must redirect our full attention to Jesus, expecting His loving and gracious response.

Look full in His wonderful face  denotes an intense pondering of Jesus and His majestic character. It has been said that as angelic beings encircle the Throne in heaven they behold another facet of His glory each time they go by. An infinite array of bewilderment and awe settles upon each gaze.

The things of earth will grow dim  as we focus on heaven's glory. Our eyes are extremely sensitive to light. As we move from darkness into His illumination - we behold the brightness of His countenance. Conversely, as the light diminishes and we strain to see clearly - earth's allure fades and dims.

We have a unique opportunity as His children (if we are willing) to "be still, and know He is God." (Psalm 46:10)  I am preaching to myself here. One of the hardest things I face is stilling my mind and pausing to take in the Lord's loving kindness and grace extended to me.

Are you in a spiritual battle - unsure of your strength and resolve?  Do you face a monumental difficulty in your marriage?  Is there a loved one far from God's fold and living in rebellion?

"Then go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place." (Matthew 6:6) Steal away with the lover of your soul.  Hence you can say, "My eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts."  (Isaiah 6:5)

As you meet privately with Jesus - keep your eyes wide open and your heart tender. When you gaze into His loving face be sure to recall what a great price was paid for your redemption. Praise Him for His gift of salvation.  Rejoice in a day of  celebration when we will behold Him as He truly is...







Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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February 14, 2015

All the hype...  All the buzz...  All the lies...   All the confusion...

I'm going to take a little risk here and write on a very controversial subject. Hold on to your seat...

First of all, before I came to know the Lord in my early thirties, and before I married my present husband, I had a past tainted with sex, recreational drugs, and poor decisions. I left home at 17 and lived with my first husband prior to marriage. I say all that to say this: 
I am not a prude - nor am I naive.

The movie, based on the books written by E L James, glamorizes a sexually deviant relationship between a powerful rich businessman and a young college woman.  Erotica literature is not new, and pornographic stories are as old as time. What is disturbing with regards to Fifty Shades of Gray is how desensitized our culture has become to sexual slavery and domestic abuse. Reading romance novels and using your imagination is one thing -- but when you see them come to life and acted out on screen, you have allowed those images to be burnished into your thought patterns and psyche. Your mind's eye will forever capture that image and memory. The fact that the movie is so controversial should be a warning to Christians everywhere.

There also seems to be a concerted effort within the mainstream media to push ED (erectile disfunction) drugs and related treatments non-stop, even during prime time programming. Our culture has become obsessed with sex and sexual performance - aimed right at middle-aged men and women who are going through their "mid-life crisis". Much of it is fueled by the almighty dollar and the drug lobby as it is being romanticized and normalized in our every day lives.

On a sadder note - remember the news stories centered around the Elizabeth Smart story. She was kidnapped and held captive for almost a year by a pervert and his wife as a sexual slave before escaping. Then there is the story of the girls who were kidnapped and hidden for years by a man in Ohio. They were tortured, raped and abused in his house of horrors and escaped when a neighbor was approached by one of them with her young daughter.

Unfortunately, Fifty Shades sensationalizes dominance, control, and intimidation - all of which contributes to an already skewed view of what women want in a sexual relationship. BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism) is a multi-million dollar industry and a growing subculture in today's sexually active society.

The fact that social media and traditional media touts this film as a "breakthrough for liberated women everywhere" is a hoax and a farce. Promiscuity is rampant and shameless as we stare down our societal future paved with rejection, remorse and regrets. The divorce rate in this country is skyrocketing - leaving broken families in their wake. Statistics within the church is sadly similar.

So - where does that leave us? God is not the author of confusion. One of the most powerful emotions we will ever face is regret. If you play with fire - you will get burned. So many women, including Christians, are being drawn into this trap.  God is all for romance and erotic love between a man and women within the bounds of holy matrimony. In Scripture, Song of Solomon is a love song - written with poetic imagery and romantic illustration. It extols physical beauty and the emotional exchange during courtship prior to marriage. It also illustrates God's love for His covenant people as well as Christ's love for His bride - the Church.

Christian women (and men) have no business consuming print media or movies that depict such perversion and unnatural sexual behavior. God's design is for a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship between a husband and wife. Pushing the boundaries of temptation are dangerous and foolish. Compromising morals for the sake of being socially relevant is insane. Recognize that the world system is anti God and anti chaste behavior. You wage an uphill battle when you take on popular culture - but you have an obligation to hold fast to His truth and flee the sin that so easily encroaches. "Be alert and aware - the evil one lurks about like a roaring lion, seeking a victim to devour" (I Peter 5:8). 



If you enjoy reading romance novels, consider such Christian authors as Francine Rivers who wrote such best sellers such as Redeeming Love .  There is a wholesome movie that was also released this weekend that celebrates a Godly, healthy courtship and romance called Old Fashioned . This is what our teen and young adult women should be urged to see.  This depicts what their heart longs for. We need to assure them that the void they feel is a God-shaped hole that can only be filled with His love. It is our responsibility to sow good seed into them and pray for their future.


A stern warning for believers occurs in I John 2:15-17 "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life - is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever."

Sin is subtle and stealthy. It hides in plain site and infiltrates every area of life. It entices us with the allure of things we think we need, want, and deserve. The enemy of our soul comes only to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10).  When you no longer feel conviction or the Spirit's nudge - it's time to get on your face and ask God to examine your heart (Psalm 51:1-4).

As in the days of Noah - so it is today. Wrong is right, sin is alternative lifestyle, and a little fun is deadly. Be careful little eyes what you see ~








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. 
Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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February 8, 2015


Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages (written Valentines didn't begin to appear until after 1400), and the oldest known Valentine card is on display at the British Museum. The first commercial Valentine's Day greeting cards produced in the U.S. were created in the 1840's by Esther A. Howland. (courtesy Wikipedia)


If God were to send you a Valentine what would it look like?

That is not a difficult question to answer if you are a Christian, for He has already given you one...  God's Word is His Valentine to you and me.  Not just any Valentine - but one that transcends our ability to grasp it's full impact.  God's Love Letter is given to us for all time and for all circumstances.  It is not limited to a special holiday.

God's requirement for us as His beloved is that we make Him our "first love" - wholly committed to Him. Our heart represents our core being.  Loving God with our whole heart means our affections must be focused foremost and fully on Him first. Only then can we love others with the love He loves us...

Love is the highest form of affection.  Agape love is the highest form of love according to God's Word. In your spiritually uneven marriage God wants to love your spouse through you, and that means even when you don't feel like it. 

It is the volition of your will that will direct your emotional response. Decide now that you will show your love by your actions.  Remember your vows:  to love and cherish, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health...  Loving your husband needs to be unconditional and intentional.



When I write these posts I can honestly say I am reinforcing my own need to hear this.  I write and read these blog articles for my own admonishment and encouragement! I too struggle with emotions and the up and down feelings that accompany any marriage - especially when you are spiritually mismatched.  There is often a disconnect - a drifting apart that occurs with regards to spiritual intimacy.

This Valentine's Day do something special for your mate. .Sure - give them candy hearts and a card. Make them their favorite meal and spend quality time together.  Then give them something unexpected..

Give them a look in the eye honest thank-you for all that you have been through together. Men desire - no, men need our respect and love. Tell them that you’d marry them all over again – that they are just what God designed for you! Reinforce that through your marriage, children, family issues, parents' deaths, surgeries, illnesses, moves, remodels, and lots of other LIFE events, that you are totally committed to them!

What has touched my heart more than anything else over the years has been a consistent hand-written note in every Valentine card I receive from my husband, telling me that he loves me, and thanking God for me. This is a gesture of love coming from a man who has yet to make Jesus Christ the Lord of his life. How blessed I am!



In the book of Ephesians Chapter 5 commands us to walk in love towards one another. The Apostle Paul is teaching on submitting to one another in the fear of God. Husbands are admonished to love their wives just as Christ loves the church. Wives are taught to respect their husbands. 
This portion of Scripture is not just for Christian marriages - but for all marriages. Our submission to Christ in our marriage is key to pleasing Him and our spouse.  You can visit a previous post I wrote on the subject of submission  HERE .

Give your husband a Valentine straight from God's heart... give him love abounding from a grateful heart established in God's Word - full of peace and grace!










Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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January 31, 2015














With Valentine's Day just around the corner, I wanted to introduce you to an exciting line of jewelry that I recently discovered.





The Gracewear Collection is based on God's Word - specifically Ephesians 6:10-18. Gracewear encourages women to put on the full Armor of God daily for His protection, mercy, and grace. The signature design for Gracewear is the Shield of Faith


Their vision is to share with women about the gift of God's Grace, and His promise that there is absolutely NO sin- great or small -that His Grace will not cover. God calls us to be ambassadors for Christ and to let His love and light shine through us. The Gracewear Collection, based on Ephesians 6:10-18 is created to offer HOPE and LIGHT- through the Power of the Shield. 

Gracewear is the perfect gift for your mother, daughter, grandmother, granddaughter, aunt, niece, or any other special person in your life, (or maybe just for yourself).  

These quality pieces reflect Gracewear's commitment to affordable, stunning designs as well as honoring God through their message.

Check out their extensive collection of jewelry at my   Affiliate Link   below. Be sure to visit their "Sale" and "New Arrivals"  items.

I just love the pieces I ordered and will wear them proudly.  I will ..."always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you..." (I Peter 3:15)





Be Shielded with the Full Armor of God! Shop Now! http://gracewearcollection.com/








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. 
Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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