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Melissa Febos is the author of the memoir, Whip Smart (St. Martin’s Press 2010) and the essay collection, Abandon Me (Bloomsbury 2017). Her writing has been published in venues including Glamour, Kenyon Review, Post Road, Portland Review, Prairie Schooner, Hunger Mountain, Salon, Dissent, The Brooklyn Rail, New York Times, Bitch Magazine, The Chronicle of Higher Education Review, The Rumpus, and Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving New York, and she has been featured on NPR’s Fresh Air with Terry Gross, Anderson Cooper Live, CNN, and The Atlantic, among many others. The winner of essay prizes from Prairie Schooner, Story Quarterly, and The Center for Women Writers, she is the recipient of a 2012 Bread Loaf Nonfiction Fellowshi ...more

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Whip Smart: A Memoir

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“Back and forth from Brooklyn to Manhattan. New York at night, from its bridges, is a miracle. When I first came to the city, it took all my fantasies and set them on fire, turned them into flickering constellations of light. Then it did the same with my history. As a dark speck of energy hurtling over the water toward that galaxy, I felt myself disappear. Relative to the image of infinity I was nothing, a clump of quantum matter skidding through the ether. It was as good as any drug.”
Melissa Febos, Whip Smart: A Memoir

“That is the gift of taking the long road: you know you're not missing anything.”
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“We kissed for two hours. Eventually, I led him into my bedroom and pulled off both of our shirts. He stopped me.
"This might sound weird; it's not typical guy response." I froze, suddenly awkward. "I mean, if I didn't feel the way I do with you I would be all for it, but I kind of think maybe it would be good to wait. I've rushed into sex, and had it be a mistake." He shrugged apologetically. "I mean, if it's safe to assume you are experiencing the same date that I am, then I think we will have time."
I was a little flabbergasted and more than a little embarrassed. How could I explain that the idea sounded like a huge relief to me, that I didn't quite understand where the impulse to start taking my clothes off came from? I had had the same experience. I rarely enjoyed first-time sex with partners, largely because I usually did it before I really knew or trusted them. Here was where the difference between what I knew and did remained wide. The shame I felt wash over me was tinged with that hatred of my own innocence. Was I still so green? So unconfident? Had I gone straight out of the extremity of sex work to the innocence of my adolescence? Where was my self-knowledge? Still, I was relieved.
"Of course. I agree totally." I clutched my T-shirt to my chest and smiled at him. "And yes, I am on the same date you are on."
"I thought so," he said. "I mean, I don't think you can feel like this when it's not reciprocal."
He left at 2:00 A.M. and called me at 11:00 the next morning to schedule our second date.”
Melissa Febos, Whip Smart: A Memoir

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Pamela Hi Melissa...Thanks for accepting my friend request.


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Jaree Francis Nice tats

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Angela Gibson Hi Melissa,

I am so glad that we are able to connect. What recommendatation do you have now? I would like to read along with you...

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Aggie Villanueva Hi Melissa. Thankx for the add. It's nice to meet you.


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