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A sadomasochistic relationship hyped as Mommy porn?
I have to wonder what does Gloria Steinem, who went to the barricades for female empowerment and equality, thinks about Fifty Shades of Grey, a novel hyped as mommy porn. The sadomasochistic relation...more
A sadomasochistic relationship hyped as Mommy porn?
I have to wonder what does Gloria Steinem, who went to the barricades for female empowerment and equality, thinks about Fifty Shades of Grey, a novel hyped as mommy porn. The sadomasochistic relationship in this trilogy describes a fantasy of female submission between a virginal college student and a neurotic, sadistic man with control issues who perhaps feels inadequate. I find the interest in the book perplexing and it raises questions about our society and its pervasive depersonalized male-female relationships.
Erotica and porn have been around for centuries, so why so much buzz about this book? Is female subjugation-- being tied up, whipped, chained etc-- for a man’s personal enjoyment a turn-on for women and men? Are so many females lacking in a passionate, erotically charged sexual encounter that pain and debasement becomes Nirvana? I thought men and women were supposed to feel something for each other approaching affection and caring when they made love--or is this an antiquated attitude? I understand the raw pull of desire and the urge to have what you must have. But is kinky the only way to get it on and have an orgasm? What ignites passion and desire anyhow?
Lisbeth Sanders, the protagonist in the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo is a survivor of abuse and a feminist avenger because of the degrading, humiliating rape she experienced at the hands of her guardian, a ruthless man who sodomized her. Is there an undercurrent of similarity to the dominant/submissive relationship in FSG and that of the Guardian controlling Lisbeth? Both men are damaged, deviant and dominant
There is an abundance of fetishistic porn available 24/7 on line that is cheap, satisfying and readily available. Is all this fueling a strange and bizarre attitude about sex? Perhaps men and women have become so available to each other in a superficial sense that they’re inaccessible on a deeper level. Is this a reflection of the new world of romantic fantasy and does it touch on a more complex societal issue? I wonder if there is a connection with the hugely profitable and violent world-wide business of under-age sex-slave trafficking. Perhaps men are watching so much pornography that the women they have sex with are being subjected to more aggressive demands during sexual encounters. Is this one explanation for the hype about a book that is demeaning and degrading to women and glamorizes deviant sexuality?
Some readers of Fifty Shades of Grey have commented that they shredded the book for its explicit violence and abhorrent, antiquated treatment of women. Others never finished it because it became boring and repetitive. They called it trashy with undeveloped pacing, filled with detail that doesn’t go anywhere and lacking the content of a developed novel. I think there is a large market of readers looking for a well-written erotically-charged novel, without the deviant sexual behaviors.
I'm Joan Nelson,the author of “Final Exit…A Suspenseful Tale of Passion Unleashed,” a novel that straddles the line between romantic suspense and literary fiction. The book has been praised for its sensuality, suspense and evocative prose, and how well the story brings to the page some of the most compelling and timeless questions concerning love and intimacy.(less)
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January 04, 2012 01:00AM
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Great Minds Think Aloud Literary Community, The United States
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Another giveaway?? So soon?? Why yes of course! This time we are calling all romance authors to donate a book of their choice for a Valentine's Day giveaway hosted by Great Minds Think Aloud Literary Community. There will also be a chance for author spotlights that will revolve around a very interesting question that I'm sure our readers will truly enjoy! If you want to get involved feel free to email me: greatmindsthinkaloud@gmail.com
I'm looking forward to having a great time with this...more
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Another giveaway?? So soon?? Why yes of course! This time we are calling all romance authors to donate a book of their choice for a Valentine's Day giveaway hosted by Great Minds Think Aloud Literary Community. There will also be a chance for author spotlights that will revolve around a very interesting question that I'm sure our readers will truly enjoy! If you want to get involved feel free to email me: greatmindsthinkaloud@gmail.com
I'm looking forward to having a great time with this one!(less)
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Dry, academic, tedious read.
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"Hi Everetts,
Thanks for the recommendation. Your photos are outstanding.
Warm wishes,
Joan
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" I found the epic proportions of this fascinating love story to be brimming with life and vitality and incredible attention to period detail. In additi...more
I found the epic proportions of this fascinating love story to be brimming with life and vitality and incredible attention to period detail. In addition, I admired the intelligence, lyricism, and compassion of the prose. It took great courage and imagination to create this novel. Nancy Horan turns the scandal of Frank and Mamah into a complex, compelling story of passion and intellectual as well as emotional attachment.
FRW concepts changed the landscape of Architecture. He conceived a building with great feeling for the primary forces of nature, and whenever possible oriented a building to the south and slightly east for the best light. The influence of the contours of the prairie land in the development of his Prairie Style Home is merged with the Japanese style home, both emphasizing the horizontal lines and planes with deep roof overhangs. Wrights designs, juxtaposed next to the prevailing Queen Anne Style of its time, is nothing short of revolutionary. His contribution to world architecture is monumental.
True, it is a fact that many great, highly accomplished people (mostly men) are arrogant, imperious and difficult to get along with. George Patten for one comes to mind. And yet, Eisenhower would have had a very hard time winning the war without this ruthless, racist, egotistical, bastard of a man. Is this a reason for us to turn our backs and decide to not be informed about him because he wasn't an admirable human being? Despicable people can be fascinating. Think about Hannibal Lecter and The Silence of the Lambs. We might not like them, but we don't have them as our friends either. I don't have to like a character and form an emotional bond in order for me to want to understand and read about someone.
Mamah Cheney didn't marry Edwin until she was thirty, and until then had lived a life of solitude, independence and study. By any standard, that alone makes for a strong, independent, free-thinking woman. Edwin had courted Mamah with persistence and it was his doggedness that wore her down. He was a man who believed that "happiness is just practice." Is this the basis of a great and lasting marriage?
Mamah was deeper and more complex than most women of that time, and perhaps women of any time, and spoke 5 or 6 languages. This affair with Frank was certainly the catalyst for Mamah to radically change her life; but the novel shows that there was a lot more to her personal evolution. It was the whole experience of loving this architect that launched her down a turbulent path she could never have foreseen.
Even though the novel explores ideas about gender roles and the confines of marriage at the turn of the last century, it is fundamentally a very human and personal story about loving someone with such great passion--something she had never experienced and perhaps few of us can even relate to-- and having that condition change your life profoundly. That kind of love, intellectual and emotional when combined with great sex, is like a highly addictive drug!
And then there was Ellen Key, a feminist philosopher, who appeared in Mamah's life at a critical moment. Being exposed to her teachings on love, the rights of the individual and children, the need for divorce reform, the social value of motherhood, the struggle to balance personal fulfillment with a loving connection to the lives around her, are all relevant today. Ellen Key's impact was profound and she meant almost as much as Frank to Mamah.
As for Horan as a writer, it's one thing to set out the facts of the past accurately; but quite another to enter the inner, emotional life of a historical character with confidence and unlock these dead peoples inner life, their heart and soul.
For many women even now seeking to understand love, motherhood, loss, duty, and the need to find one's personal strengths, their lives might still parallel Mamah's painful emotional journey. I think both Mamah and Frank were heavily burdened with guilt and remorse for what they had done to their children.
As for Frank, he was far more than just an ass-hole. Yes, he was arrogant, narcissistic, and self-absorbed. But he was also a brilliant, charismatic, complicated man at a critical juncture of his life, only 40 years old when this affair happened, and his life was lived on the world stage. Remember, he was 20 when he married Catherine with no worldly experience, barely a man at that time of life.(less)
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Dr. Robert Geller is in a loveless marriage to his wife Helen. He finds the excitement he is missing in casual affairs with passing aquaintences. It's a semi-satifying way of life until he meets Jennifer Allen. Robert is her husband's heart doctor...
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"Hi Wanda,
Thank you for your outstanding review of my novel, Final Exit...A Suspenseful Tale of Passions Unleashed.
Best regards,
Joan Nelson
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