Brené Brown's Blog
October 22, 2015
I’m partnering with one of my favorite photographers, Andrea Corrona Jenkins, to bring a dose of daring to your email box every Monday morning!
Andrea Corrona Jenkins
Here’s an example of what you’ll receive in your inbox.
If you’d like to join us for a little Monday morning inspiration, you can sign up here!
Here’s to braver Monday mornings, Polaroid pictures, and a little more beauty in our lives!
October 8, 2015
I’m so excited to tell you about my latest daring adventure: COURAGEworks!
As most of you know, I love teaching and I’m passionate about learning. It’s been my dream to create a place where we can come together to learn and have conversations (even the hard ones) about the issues that mean the most to us.
COURAGEworks is that place.
It’s an online learning community that offers eCourses, workshops, and interviews developed for all of us who are committed to fully showing up in our lives – to being brave, leaning into vulnerability, and rumbling with the challenges that come with living a daring life.
During the courses, participants will roll up their sleeves for hands-on, interactive explorations of the work. In each lesson, I’ll guide you through reading assignments, lesson videos, exercise videos, and new ways to put the lessons into daily practices.
The video lessons are available on-demand, so you will be able to review them at a time that fits your schedule!
You can learn more about COURAGEworks at courageworks.com
And, right now you can use the coupon code MYTRIBE2015 to receive 20% off of the Living Brave semester!
Can’t wait to see you in class,
And . . . if you have any suggestions about classes you’d like to see offered through COURAGEworks, leave your ideas in the comment section!
August 22, 2015
Owning our stories of falling gives us the power to write a daring new ending. The rising strong process outlines the power in turning toward the pain of our fall and digging into our feelings rather than pretending, perfecting, or disowning our hurt.
"The opposite of recognizing that we're feeling something is denying our emotions. The opposite of being curious is disengaging. When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don't go away – they own us then they define us. Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, reckon with our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how this story ends."
Living this process creates nothing short of a revolution in our lives. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness. It's the process that teaches us the most about who we are.
Rising Strong is officially out on Tuesday, August 25th
August 5, 2015
T – 20 days until Rising Strong launches! My dear friend Travis Reed made this beautiful book trailer for me based on the manifesto I wrote for the the book. I love it so much and I’m excited about sharing it with you!
In other fun news, Rising Strong was just named on Amazon.com’s Best Books of the Month list!
Also, we’re getting lots of emails about the tour dates. Everything on the events page is updated with links (including a new 1.5 day workshop in London)!
Thank y’all for your support and encouragement. It means the world to me!
More to come!
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July 27, 2015
As we enter the Rising Strong launch countdown, I thought I’d share one of my favorite passages from the new book with you. Even though this is something I know in my head, it remains something I have to practice in my heart.
From Rising Strong:
The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness. We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity
Lovability: Many of my research participants who had gone through a painful breakup or divorce, been betrayed by a partner, or experienced a distant or uncaring relationship with a parent or family member spoke about responding to their pain with a story about being unlovable—a narrative questioning if they were worthy of being loved.
This may be the most dangerous conspiracy theory of all. If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past thirteen years, it’s this: Just because someone isn’t willing or able to love us, it doesn’t mean that we are unlovable.
Divinity: Research participants who shared stories of shame around religion had less in common than most people guess. No specific denomination has emerged as more shaming in my work; however, there is a strong pattern worth noting. Over half of the participants who talked about experiencing shame in their faith histories also found resilience and healing through spirituality.
The majority of them changed their churches or their beliefs, but spirituality and faith remain important parts of their lives. They believed that the sources of shame arose from the earthly, man-made, human-interpreted rules or regulations and the social/community expectations of religion rather than their personal relationships with God or the divine.
Our faith narratives must be protected, and we must remember that no person is ordained to judge our divinity or to write the story of our spiritual worthiness.
Creativity and Ability: In Daring Greatly, I write, “One reason that I’m confident that shame exists in schools is simply because 85 percent of the men and women we interviewed for the shame research could recall a school incident from their childhood that was so shaming that it changed how they thought of themselves as learners. What makes this even more haunting is that approximately half of those recollections were what I refer to as creativity scars. The research participants could point to a specific incident where they were told or shown that they weren’t good writers, artists, musicians, dancers, or something creative. This helps explain why the gremlins are so powerful when it comes to creativity and innovation.”
Like our lovability and divinity, we must care for and nurture the stories we tell ourselves about our creativity and ability. Just because we didn’t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn’t mean that we don’t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world. Just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn’t change its worth or ours.
The Rising Strong book launch is one month away and I’m straddling that familiar tension between excited and scared – it’s not easy putting your ideas or yourself out in the world. So, when I start making up dangerous stories, one of the things that keeps me going is knowing that in less than four weeks I’ll be on the road having great conversations with this community about what it means to rise strong. I hope to see you on the road!
Many of the events are sold out; however, a couple of organizers have recently moved to larger venues. There are also a few events that haven’t opened ticket sales yet. We’ve also just opened the London events. You can find more information on the book events here.
See you on the road!
September 3, 2013
Yesterday, American 64-year-old long-distance swimmer Diana Nyad became the first person to swim across the Florida Straits from Cuba without a shark cage. This was her her fifth attempt!
I love this quote from Reuters:
"Her face sunburned and lips swollen, with barely enough energy to speak, Nyad waded ashore at Key West after a 53-hour swim and delivered a simple message to onlookers: 'We should never, ever give up . . . You never are too old to chase your dreams.'"
Here's to daring greatly. Diana - you inspire us! And you're knocking at my cellar door.
August 22, 2013
I think protocol is to post a sign that says, "Gone Fishin'" not write a long overdue blog post that says, "Went fishing."
I planned to write an elaborate "sign off for the summer email" but that didn't happen. When this new website launched, my blogging platform changed and I forgot that one tiny detail of learning how to use it. Before you can say, "Hey kids! Put on sunscreen!" summer was in full motion and teaching myself how to do this felt impossible. Sorry for being blog MIA.
Summer was basically this: fishing with the family - teaching my shame and empathy course at UH - fishing - flying to the UK and Australia for the launches of Daring Greatly - fishing - field hockey practice - fishing - camp carpool - swimming - meeting with the Senior Faculty of The Daring Way (our new certification program for helping professionals) - more fishing. You get the picture.
My awesome and daring grad students at The University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work.
Sometimes I wonder if the truly exhausting part of our lives is the radical switching of gears. I took these two pictures in the span of 24 hours. One is in the UK at the BBC and the other is on the Texas coast (that's Charlie - he's in charge of the trolling motor).
It's back-to-school around here this week and I'm predictably sad to see summer go and looking forward to the returning rhythm of fall. It's been a crazy, wonderful, exhausting, messy, fishy, summer. I've had lots of time to think (do you know how long it takes to fly from Texas to Australia!!!) and I feel a major recalibration coming.
As most of you know, I hate that feeling. But I'll stick with it until clarity visits (or I can't stand it one second longer and I make a couple of bad choices that make uncertainty look awesome). Then I'll start over again. Dammit.
Until then - I'm back and I'm happy about that. I missed our community!
May 13, 2013
Taken at Katherine's mom's ranch!
Last week my good friend Katherine Center celebrated the launch of her new book, The Lost Husband, with a party here in Houston. I was lucky enough to get an advance copy of The Lost Husband and I've already read it twice. Yes. Twice.
It's one of those stories that you never want to leave. By the time it was over I was committed to moving to a goat farm in the Texas Hill Country. Or, at the very least, finding a therapist who wears overalls and makes goat cheese. Here's a teaser from the book jacket:
Dear Libby, It occurs to me that you and your two children have been living with your mother for—Dear Lord!—two whole years, and I’m writing to see if you'd like to be rescued.
The letter comes out of the blue, and just in time for Libby Moran, who—after the sudden death of her husband, Danny—went to stay with her hypercritical mother. Now her crazy Aunt Jean has offered Libby an escape: a job and a place to live on her farm in the Texas Hill Country. Before she can talk herself out of it, Libby is packing the minivan, grabbing the kids, and hitting the road.
Life on Aunt Jean’s goat farm is both more wonderful and more mysterious than Libby could have imagined. Beyond the animals and the strenuous work, there is quiet—deep, country quiet. But there is also a shaggy, gruff (though purportedly handsome, under all that hair) farm manager with a tragic home life, a formerly famous feed-store clerk who claims she can contact Danny “on the other side,” and the eccentric aunt Libby never really knew but who turns out to be exactly what she’s been looking for.
And despite everything she’s lost, Libby soon realizes how much more she’s found. She hasn’t just traded one kind of crazy for another: She may actually have found the place to bring her little family—and herself—back to life."
Read it! You'll be swept away.
What You Know Now
May 7, 2013
There are millions of ways to make the world a better place. Activism doesn't take one form and it can't be conveyed in a single story. This final book fair post features books by Marianne Elliott, Jody Williams, and Chimamanda Adichie - activists with very different approaches but a common message: Show up.
Marianne's new book Zen Under Fire lays bare the struggles of a war-torn region from a uniquely personal perspective. Honest and vivid, her story reveals the shattering effect that the high-stress environment has on Marianne and her relationships. Redefining the question of what it really means to do good in a country that is under siege from within. The book is an honest, moving, at times terrifying true story of a women's experience at peacekeeping in one of the most dangerous places on Earth.
Marianne has a generous pre-order offer that you can check out here. I took her 30 Days of Yoga course and I can tell you that she's a wonderful teacher!
I had the great privilege of co-teaching a course on global justice with Jody Willaims. Over the course of five years we became good friends (and clearly shared a passion for denim) and I had the opportunity to work with The Nobel Women's Initiative - a joint effort of all of the living female Nobel Peace Prize winners to work for peace with justice and equality.
Jody is one of the women in my life who taught me how to dare greatly by example. She's the tenth woman--and third American woman--to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.
I love what Eve Ensler says about Jody in her forward to : "Jody Williams is many things--a simple girl from Vermont, a sister of a disabled brother, a loving wife, an intense character full of fury and mischief, a great strategist, an excellent organizer, a brave and relentless advocate, and a Nobel Peace Prize winner. But to me Jody Williams is, first and foremost, an activist."
I absolutely love this book.
I want to leave you with one of my favorite TED talks and books by writer Chimamanda Adichie. Her TED talk is a beautiful example of stories and truth-telling as activism. Her book Half of a Yellow Sun is soul-stirring. It's not featured in the photo because my copy seems to be on permanent loan.
Thanks for all of the great feedback about the "book fair" idea. I'm sorry for unplanned week in between posts. Life happened - swim team, soccer, homework, travel, summer colds. I have the feeling that I don't need to tell y'all what that looks like!
April 18, 2013
Their memoirs made me:
Shauna's new book, Bread and Wine, is one of those books that grabs all of you – your mind, body, and spirit. It's beautiful storytelling, messy truth-making, and cooking. You can watch her book trailer here. I love her idea that vulnerability happens at the table when we break bread and share stories. Amen!
And . . . make the Blueberry Crisp! Delicious.
Glennon's new book, Carry On, Warrior! is exactly what you get when you combine the ugly cry with the snort laughter. Glennon explains how life “brutiful” - brutal and beautiful. Her humor,
warmth, and honesty are important reminders that there is beauty in our
struggle. There were several times when I thought How did she get in my head? Check out the book trailer here.
Leigh's new book Still Points North took my breath away. From the stories about her girlhood adventures in the Alaskan wilderness to the real survival stories of navigating her parents' divorce and finding love, I was transfixed. Even though I was in my early twenties when my parents divorced and that was 25 years ago, there was something so healing about this book. It reminded me how well tough and tender co-exist when we let them. The book trailer is here.
There's one more post for the Ordinary Courage Book Fair. Stay tuned! And thanks for the feedback and suggestions!