quotes by Erich Fromm

"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."
— Erich Fromm (The Art of Loving)

"A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet "for sale", who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his "normal" contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity,his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves. "
— Erich Fromm

"Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'"
— Erich Fromm

"“Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an ordination of character which determines the relatedness of the person to the whole world as a whole, not toward one object of love”"
— Erich Fromm

""Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.""
— Erich Fromm

""It is naively assumed that the fact that the majority of people share certain ideas and feelings proves the validity of these ideas and feelings. Nothing could be further from the truth. Consensual validation as such has no bearing on reason or mental health.""
— Erich Fromm

"The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers. "
— Erich Fromm

"One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often."
— Erich Fromm

""Nationalism is our form of incest, is our idolatry, is our
insanity. 'Patriotism' is its cult... Just as love for one
individual which excludes the love for others is not love,
love for one's country which is not part of one's love
for humanity is not love, but idolatrous worship.""
— Erich Fromm

"Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve."
— Erich Fromm

"Man’s main task is to give birth to himself. "
— Erich Fromm

"Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved."
— Erich Fromm

". . . freedom to creat and construct, to wonder and to venture. Such freedom requires that the individual be active and responsible, not a slave or a well-fed cog in the machine . . . It is not enough that men are not slaves; if social conditions further the existence of automatons, the result will not be love of life, but love of death."
— Erich Fromm (The Heart of Man, Its Genius for Good and Evil)

"There is nothing inhuman, evil, or irrational which does not give some comfort, provided it is shared by a group."
— Erich Fromm (Psychoanalysis and Religion: The Terry Lectures Series)

"Freedom is not a constant attribute which we either "have" or "have not." In fact, there is no such thing as "freedom" except as a word and an abstract concept. There is only one reality: the act of freeing ourselves in the process of making choices. In this process the degree of our capacity to make choices varies with each act, with our practice of life."
— Erich Fromm (The Heart of Man, Its Genius for Good and Evil)

"Modern man has transformed himself into a commodity; he experiences his life energy as an investment with which he should make the highest profit, considering his position and the situation on the personality market. He is alienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. His main aim is profitable exchange of his skills, knowledge, and of himself, his "personality package" with others who are equally intent on a fair and profitable exchange. Life has no goal except the one to move, no principle except the one of fair exchange, no satisfaction except the one to consume.p97."
— Erich Fromm (The Art of Loving: An Enquiry into the Nature of Love)

"Greedhas no satiation point, since its consummation does not fill the inner emptiness, boredom, loneliness, and depression it is meant to overcome."
— Erich Fromm

"He gives him of that which is alive in him; he gives him of his joy, of his interest, of his understanding, of his knowledge, of his humor, of his sadness -- of all expressions and manifestations of that which is alive in him. In thus giving of his life, he enriches the other person, he enhances the other's sense of aliveness by enhancing his own sense of aliveness. He does not give in order to receive; giving is in itself exquisite joy. But in giving he cannot help bringing something to life in the other person, and this which is brought to life reflects back to him. "
— Erich Fromm

""The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers""
— Erich Fromm

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence."
— Erich Fromm

"Alienation as we find it in modern society is almost total… Man has created a world of man-made things as it never existed before. He has constructed a complicated social machine to administer the technical machine he built. The more powerful and gigantic the forces are which he unleashes, the more powerless he feels himself as a human being. He is owned by his creations, and has lost ownership of himself."
— Erich Fromm

"The more the drive toward life is thwarted, the stronger is the drive toward destruction; the more life is realized, the less is the strength of destructiveness. Destructiveness is the outcome of unlived life."
— Erich Fromm (Escape from Freedom)

"To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable."
— Erich Fromm

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.
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— Erich Fromm

"The pleasure in complete domination over another person (or other animate creature) is the very essence of the sadistic drive. Another way of formulating the same thought is to say that the aim of sadism is to transform man into a thing, something animate into something inanimate, since by complete and absolute control the living loses one essential quality of life - freedom."
— Erich Fromm (The Heart of Man, Its Genius for Good and Evil)

"Our conscious motivations, ideas, and beliefs are a blend of false information, biases, irrational passions, rationalizations, prejudices, in which morsels of truth swim around and give the reassurance albeit false, that the whole mixture is real and true. The thinking processes attempt to organize this whole cesspool of illusions according to the laws of plausibility. This level of consciousness is supposed to reflect reality; it is the map we use for organizing our life."
— Erich Fromm (To Have or to Be? The Nature of the Psyche)

"Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties."
— Erich Fromm

"Critical and radical thought will only bear fruit when it is blended with the most precious quality man is endowed with - the love of life"
— Erich Fromm (The Anatomy of Human Destructiveness)

"The mature response to the problem of existence is love."
— Erich Fromm (The Art of Loving: An Enquiry into the Nature of Love)

"There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as 'moral indignation,' which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue."
— Erich Fromm

"Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies"
— Erich Fromm

"La raison découle du mélange de la pensée rationnelle et des sentiments. Si les deux fonctions se dissocient, la pensée se détériore en activité intellectuelle schizoïde et les sentiments en passions névrotiques autodestructrices. "
— Erich Fromm

"Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much."
— Erich Fromm

"The only truly affluent are those who do not want more than they have."
— Erich Fromm

"Is love an art? Then it requires knowledge and effort."
— Erich Fromm