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“Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.”
Daniel Goleman, Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
“In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice there is little we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.”
Daniel Goleman
“The argument has long been made that we humans are by nature compassionate and empathic despite the occasional streak of meanness, but torrents of bad news throughout history have contradicted that claim, and little sound science has backed it. But try this thought experiment. Imagine the number of opportunities people around the world today might have to commit an antisocial act, from rape or murder to simple rudeness and dishonesty. Make that number the bottom of a fraction. Now for the top value you put the number of such antisocial acts that will actually occur today.

That ratio of potential to enacted meanness holds at close to zero any day of the year. And if for the top value you put the number of benevolent acts performed in a given day, the ratio of kindness to cruelty will always be positive. (The news, however, comes to us as though that ratio was reversed.)

Harvard's Jerome Kagan proposes this mental exercise to make a simple point about human nature: the sum total of goodness vastly outweighs that of meanness. 'Although humans inherit a biological bias that permits them to feel anger, jealousy, selfishness and envy, and to be rude, aggressive or violent,' Kagan notes, 'they inherit an even stronger biological bias for kindness, compassion, cooperation, love and nurture – especially toward those in need.' This inbuilt ethical sense, he adds, 'is a biological feature of our species.”
Daniel Goleman, Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
“A belligerent samurai, an old Japanese tale goes, once challenged a Zen master to explain the concept of heaven and hell. The monk replied with scorn, "You're nothing but a lout - I can't waste my time with the likes of you!"
His very honor attacked, the samurai flew into a rage and, pulling his sword from its scabbard, yelled "I could kill you for your impertinence."
"That," the monk calmly replied, "is hell."
Startled at seeing the truth in what the master pointed out about the fury that had him in its grip, the samurai calmed down, sheathed his sword, and bowed, thanking the monk for the insight.
"And that,"said the monk "is heaven."

The sudden awakening of the samurai to his own agitated state illustrates the crucial difference between being caught up in a feeling and becoming aware that you are being swept away by it. Socrates's injunction "Know thyself" speaks to the keystone of emotional intelligence: awareness of one's own feelings as they occur.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“people's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues.
the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“But the rational mind usually doesn't decide what emotions we "should" have !”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and "proofs" all their own.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Our emotional mind will harness the rational mind to its purposes, for our feelings and reactions-- rationalizations-- justifying them in terms of the present moment, without realizing the influence of our emotional memory.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine - but not when she looks elsewhere.”
Daniel Goleman, Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
“Anyone can become angry —that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way —this is not easy. ARISTOTLE, The Nicomachean Ethics”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“أننا لا شعورياً نقلد الانفعالات التي يظهرها أمامنا شخص آخر عن طريق محاكاة حركية لا واعية لتعبيرات الوجه وإيماءاته ونبرات صوته والمحددات غير اللفظية الأخرى للانفاعلات، وبهذه المحاكاة يعيد الأشخاص في داخلهم خلق هذه الحالات المزاجية للشخص الآخر. وهي صورة مبسطة من طريقة ستانيسلافسكي والذي كان يطلب من الممثلين أن يتذكروا الإماءات والحركات والتعبيرات الأخرى لانفعال أثر فيهم بقوة في الماضي من أجل استثارة هذه المشاعر مرة أخرى.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“When we are in the grip of craving or fury, head-over-heals in love our recoiling in dread, it is the limbic system that has us in its grip.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Fear, in evolution, has a special prominence: perhaps more than any other emotion it is crucial for survival.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel. HORACE WALPOLE”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition
“emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership.”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence
“Daydreaming incubates creative discovery.”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence
“[Sharmayne Williams:]...puoi avere tutte le emozioni possibili, ma non devi permettere che siano loro a manovrarti.”
Daniel Goleman, Lavorare con intelligenza emotiva
“Benjamin Franklin put it well: “Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition
“We transmit and catch moods from each other in what amounts to a subterranean economy of the psyche in which some encounters are toxic, some nourishing.”
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
“You see it in jazz musicians, who never rehearse exactly what they do, but just seem to know when to take center stage, when to fade into the background. When jazz artists were compared with classical musicians in brain function, they showed more neural indicators of self-awareness.15 As one jazz artist put it, “In jazz you have to tune in to how your body is feeling so you know when to riff.”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence
“As Erasmus, the great Renaissance thinker, reminds us, “The best hope of a nation lies in the proper education of its youth.”
Daniel Goleman, Primal Leadership, With a New Preface by the Authors: Unleashing the Power of Emotional Intelligence
“Los pensamientos obsesivos son la leña que alimenta el fuego de la ira, un fuego que sólo podrá extinguirse contemplando las cosas desde un punto de vista diferente”
Daniel Goleman, Inteligencia emocional
“مشکل انسان در این نیست که از هیجان برخوردار است بلکه انچه اهمیت دارد مناسب بودن هیجان و نحوه ابراز ان است

Daniel Goleman
“«El recurso más precioso de un ordenador no está en su procesador, en su memoria, en su disco duro ni en la red, sino en la atención humana», concluye un grupo de investigación de la Universidad de Carnegie Mellon.”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: Desarrollar la atención para alcanzar la excelencia
“«La mente creativa es un don sagrado y la mente racional un sirviente fiel –dijo, en cierta ocasión, Albert Einstein–. Por ello resulta muy curioso que hayamos creado una sociedad que, olvidando el don, haya acabado honrando al sirviente.»”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: Desarrollar la atención para alcanzar la excelencia
“Though they are quick to put others down, unhealthy narcissists view themselves in absolutely positive terms. They”
Daniel Goleman, Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
“Una de las claves para intensificar nuestra conexión con el estado de flujo consiste en sintonizar lo que hacemos con lo que nos gusta, como sucede en el caso de quienes tienen la inmensa fortuna de disfrutar de su trabajo. Las personas con éxito son, independientemente del entorno considerado, las que han sabido dar con esa combinación.”
Daniel Goleman, Focus: Desarrollar la atención para alcanzar la excelencia

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