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“I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Real love" - "This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Love is a verb.”
― Gary Chapman

“Love is a choice you make everyday.”
― Gary Chapman

“The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“The person who is "in-love" has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.”
― Gary Chapman

“People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do.' That is love's ultimate expression.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

“Love is a choice.”
― Gary Chapman

“Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

“For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships.
Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

“We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature,we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts