"Books are the plane, and the train, and the road. They are the destination, and the journey. They are home."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"I would be most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves."
— Anna Quindlen

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
— Anna Quindlen

"How is it that, a full two centuries after Jane Austen finished her manuscript, we come to the world of Pride and Prejudice and find ourselves transcending customs, strictures, time, mores, to arrive at a place that educates, amuses, and enthralls us? It is a miracle. We read in bed because reading is halfway between life and dreaming, our own consciousness in someone else's mind."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"In books I have traveled, not only to other worlds, but into my own."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"...but the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of the three on them sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4, and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in a hurry to get on to the next things: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less."
— Anna Quindlen

"...those of us who read because we love it more than anything, who feel about bookstores the way some people feel about jewelers..."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"But never fear, gentlemen; castration was really not the point of feminism, and we women are too busy eviscerating one another to take you on."
— Anna Quindlen

"If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all."
— Anna Quindlen

"A finished person is a boring person. "
— Anna Quindlen

"Reading has always been my home, my sustenance, my great invincible companion. "Book love," Trollope called it. "It will make your hours pleasant to you as long as you live." Yet of all the many things in which we recognize some universal comfort...reading seems to be the one in which the comfort is most undersung..."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"...the joy of someone who had been a reader all her life, whose world had been immeasurably enlarged by the words of others."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"I wondered why I hadn't loved that day more, why I hadn't savored every bit of it...why I hadn't known how good it was to live so normally, so everyday. But you only know that, I suppose, after it's not normal and every day any longer."
— Anna Quindlen (One True Thing: A Novel)

"When an actress takes off her clothes onscreen but a nursing mother is told to leave, what message do we send about the roles of women? In some ways we’re as committed to the old madonna-whore dichotomy as ever. And the Madonna stays home, feeding the baby behind the blinds, a vestige of those days when for a lady to venture out was a flagrant act of public exposure."
— Anna Quindlen

"I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me."
— Anna Quindlen

"Life is made up of moments, small pieces of glittering mica in a long stretch of gray cement. It would be wonderful if they came to us unsummoned, but particularly in lives as busy as the ones most of us lead now, that won’t happen. We have to teach ourselves how to make room for them, to love them, and to live, really live."
— Anna Quindlen (A Short Guide to a Happy Life)

"Nothing important, or meaningful, or beautiful, or interesting, or great ever came out of imitations. The thing that is really hard and really amazing is to give up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
— Anna Quindlen

"Every story has already been told. Once you've read Anna Karenina, Bleak House, The Sound and the Fury, To Kill a Mockingbird and A Wrinkle in Time, you understand that there is really no reason to ever write another novel. Except that each writer brings to the table, if she will let herself, something that no one else in the history of time has ever had."
— Anna Quindlen

""All reading is good reading. And all reading of Jane Austen and Charles Dickens is sublime reading." "
— Anna Quindlen

"I remember the first year after my second child was born, what I can remember of it at all, as a year of disarray, of overturned glasses of milk, of toys on the floor, of hours from sunrise to sunset that were horribly busy but filled with what, at the end of the day, seemed like absolutely nothing at all. What saved my sanity were books. What saved my sanity was disappearing, if only for fifteen minutes before I inevitably began to nod off in bed...and as it was for me when I was young and surrounded by siblings, as it is today when I am surrounded by children, reading continues to provide an escape from a crowded house into an imaginary room of one's own."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

"The great motherhood friendships are the ones in which two women can admit [how difficult mothering is] quietly to each other, over cups of tea at a table sticky with spilled apple juice and littered with markers without tops.""
— Anna Quindlen

"When you really want to say no, say no. You can't do everything - or at least not well."
— Anna Quindlen

"Don't ever forget the words on a postcard that my father sent me last year: "If you win the rat race, you're still a rat."
— Anna Quindlen (A Short Guide to a Happy Life)

"Trying to be perfect may be inevitable for people who are smart and ambitious and interested in the world and its good opinion...What is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
— Anna Quindlen (Being Perfect)

"I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that person could be me. "
— Anna Quindlen

"In books I have traveled, not only to other worlds, but into my own. I learned who I was and who I wanted to be, what I might aspire to, and what I might dare to dream about my world and myself. More powerfully and persuasively than from the "shalt nots" of the Ten Commandments, I learned the difference between good and evil, right and wrong. A Wrinkle in Time described that evil, that wrong, existing in a different dimension from our own. But I felt that I, too, existed much of the time in a different dimension from everyone else I knew. There was waking, and there was sleeping. And then there were books, a kind of parallel universe in which anything might happen and frequently did, a universe in which I might be a newcomer but was never really a stranger. My real, true world. My perfect island." "
— Anna Quindlen

"I conveniently forgot to remember that people only have two hands, or, as another parent once said of having a third child, it's time for a zone defense instead of man-to-man."
— Anna Quindlen (Good dog. Stay.)

"The beginning and the end are never really the journey of discovery for me. It is the middle that remains a puzzle until well into the writing. That's how life is most of the time, isn't it? You know where you are and where you hope to wind up. It's the getting there that's challenging."
— Anna Quindlen (Object Lessons)

"You cannot be really first-rate at your work if your work is all you are."
— Anna Quindlen (A Short Guide to a Happy Life)

"While we pay lip service to the virtues of reading, the truth is that there is still in our culture something that suspects those who read too much, whatever reading too much means, of being lazy, aimless dreamers, people who need to grow up and come outside to where real life is, who think themselves superior in their separateness."
— Anna Quindlen (How Reading Changed My Life)

""Books are the plane, and the train, and the road. They are the destination, and the journey. They are home.""
— Anna Quindlen

"Four A.M. and the darkness had a quality of inexorability and menace as though it would never lift, as though, without anyone noticing it, the dawn of the day before had been the beginning of the last light ever in the history of the world."
— Anna Quindlen (Blessings)

"When an actress takes off her clothes onscreen, but a nursing mother is told to leave, what message do we send about the roles of women?"
— Anna Quindlen

"There's some muscle group around your shoulders that seizes up during the perfection dance and doesn't let go until you are asleep, or alone. Or maybe it never really lets go at all."
— Anna Quindlen (Being Perfect)

"Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work. That's what I have to say. The second is only a part of the first."
— Anna Quindlen

"I would be most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves."
— Anna Quindlen

"Speech is the voice of the heart."
— Anna Quindlen

"And eventually being perfect became like carrying a backpack filled with bricks every single day.... What is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
— Anna Quindlen (Being Perfect)

"A week in the hospital she had told us. A hysterectomy, she had said. It had seemed unremarkable to me in a woman of forty-six long finished with childbearing, although every day that I grow older I realize there is never anything unremarkable about losing any part of what makes you female - a breast, a womb, a child, a man."
— Anna Quindlen (One True Thing)

"I'm a novelist. My work is human nature."
— Anna Quindlen

"I would be most content if my children grew up to be
the kind of people who think decorating
consists mostly of building enough bookshelves."
— Anna Quindlen

"The rituals surrounding vacations among Manhattan's wealthiest and best-connected citizens are strange and specific. By vacations I don't mean country houses, which are part of the regular ebb and flow of life and which are frequently subjects for complaint - The kids never want to go! The caretaker missed the roof leak! The pipes froze! - as though having a six-thousand-square-foot, cedar-shingled cottage on five acres overlooking the ocean is nothing more or less than a constant test of character."
— Anna Quindlen (Rise and Shine: A Novel)

"There's a certain kind of conversation you have from time to time at parties in New York about a new book. The word "banal" sometimes rears its by-now banal head; you say "underedited," I say "derivative." The conversation goes around and around various literary criticisms, and by the time it moves on one thing is clear: No one read the book; we just read the reviews."
— Anna Quindlen

"For those of us who suspect all the mysteries of life are contained in the microcosm of the family, that personal relationships prefigure all else, the work of Jane Austen is the Rosetta stone of literature."
— Anna Quindlen

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing,
is giving up on being perfect and beginning
the work of becoming yourself.

Anna Quindlen"
— Anna Quindlen

"All of life like a series of tableaux, and in the living we missed so much, hid so much, left so much undone and unsaid."
— Anna Quindlen (One True Thing: A Novel)

"It turned out that when my younger self thought of taking wing, she wanted only to let her spirit soar. Books are the plane, the train, and the road. They are the destination, and the journey. They are home."
— Anna Quindlen

"I would be the most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves."
— Anna Quindlen