Shannon L. Alder > Quotes

“Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another: Why can't you see who I truly am?”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours.”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It's Too Late

“It amazes me that people think their soul mate is going to show up in their life at this predestined time and be this flawless person. A true soul mate is a mirror of yourself, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. Sure, they have a common upbringing, similar interests but they have the one thing you don’t have which is the introspection to help you become great. What use is a soul mate if they can’t help free you from yourself so you can live your life mission?”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions Lds Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

“Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Reputation is what others think of us; character is what God knows of us. When you have spent what feels like eternity trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you then you must ask yourself if you have the problem or is it really them? God doesn’t make us try so hard…..only enemies do.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“If he can't handle you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best. Real love means seeing beyond the words spoken out of pain and instead seeing a person's soul.”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions Lds Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

“When you can’t reach the standards of another’s heart you must ask yourself,
"What value do I put on my soul that I would subject myself to such rejection?”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions Lds Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

“I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Every person has a dark side. What defines a person with good character is not a spotless life of constant kindness, smiles and even temperament. But rather, it’s the yearning to learn from your mistakes, applying it, making amends for them and choosing not to repeat them that defines good character. These are the friends to keep in your life because they have stared adversity in the face and became a better person because of it.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. It's like sitting in a boat and neither one has an oar to row the other to shore. You can meet your mirror image in life but that doesn't mean you should marry him.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When you think yours is the only true path you forever chain yourself to judging others and narrow the vision of God. The road to righteousness and arrogance is a parallel road that can intersect each other several times throughout a person's life. It’s often hard to recognize one road from another. What makes them different is the road to righteousness is paved with the love of humanity. The road to arrogance is paved with the love of self.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“I have always found it odd that people who think passive aggressively ignoring a person is making a point to them. The only point it makes to anyone is your inability to articulate your point of view because deep down you know you can’t win. It’s better to assert yourself and tell the person you are moving on without them and why rather than leave a lasting impression of cowardness on your part in a person’s mind by avoiding them.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself but others.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“There are many forms of love as there is moments in time, and you are capable of feeling them all at different stages of your life.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Being different is a revolving door in your life where secure people enter and insecure exit.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The greatest regret is being what others would want you to be rather than being yourself.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman's heart.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Sometimes your light shines so bright that it blinds people from seeing who you really are.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually, circumstances cause people to act a certain way. It's from those circumstances that a person's attitude is affected followed by weakening of character. Not the reverse. If we had no faults of our own, we should not take so much pleasure in noticing those in others and judging their lives as either black or white, good or bad. We all live our lives in shades of gray.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The most introspective of souls are often those that have been hurt the most.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that first dream and realize that God has already written the first chapter of the new life that awaits you. All you have to do is start reading...”
― Shannon L. Alder

“There are no coincidences in life. What person that wandered in and out of your life was there for some purpose even if they caused you harm. Sometimes it doesn’t make sense the short periods of time we get with people or the outcomes from their choices. However, if you turn it over to God he promises that you will see the big picture in the here after. Nothing is too small to be a mistake.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls with life missions to fulfill, you forever limit the growth and possibilities of what God has in store for another person.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The price tag that you put on your soul will determine the people and circumstances in which you find yourself.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Your words will either give you joy or give you sorrow. But if they were spoken without regret they give you peace.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Music is the beat of a drum that keeps time with our emotions.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when other’s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when your sick, who thinks your pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, ‘that’s her’, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep…..you marry him all over again.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“What good is intuition if your heart gets in the way of hearing it?”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Time doesn't heal all wounds only distance can lessen the sting of them.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to see all the doors God has open in front of you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The most introspective of hearts tends to be the most sentimental. We cling to the smallest moments from our past because we fear that emotion will never come our way again.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“If you haven't cried atleast once while writing a chapter of your inspirational book then you have to ask yourself if your're writing fiction.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Humility is not a one time lesson that comes when you have lost everything. It is a daily reminder of how far we have come yet still short of who we can be through HIS guidance. Blessed is the soul that can recognize that he isn’t moving mountains but God is for him.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Passion is not a reaction to an external event. It is the left over emotions from the internal battles you have won that propels you forward.”
― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It's Too Late

“The important thing isn't what other people think you are; it's who you are.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Tolerance is nothing more than patience with boundaries.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“My father taught me that you can you read a hundred books on wisdom and write a hundred books on wisdom but unless you apply what you learned then its only words on a page. Life is not lived with intentions but action.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“You are not what others think you are. You are what God knows you are.”
― Shannon L. Alder