One of the first trade books to apply acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to relationships, this guide is written in an entertaining, engaging style appealing to lay readers and experienced ACT practitioners alike. Chapter by chapter, readers learn to live by their values in a relationship, use mindfulness to accept and appreciate their partners, change their behavior to become the partners they want to be, and acknowledge but set aside unhelpful beliefs and thoughts about the relationship. ACT with Love emphasizes that it is futile for readers to control their partners, and instead, they must accept them. Because this is often difficult, the book helps readers develop compassion for themselves and for their partners and work to resolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differences.

The book includes many helpful exercises couples can do together to learn to act with compassion and love toward each other. Throughout the book, the author refers readers to online free, downloadable resources, such as worksheets and MP3 recordings, designed to be used in conjunction with this guide.